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writes:I have an ongoing problem and I can't deal with it at all!I was going out with a guy for a year: and he was great and I was happy with him. One weekend things took a different turn - all of a sudden I started feeling bad about him. Loss of attraction, everything he did annoyed me. After w few weeks i was depressed - I couldn't believe i felt like that towards a person i loved so much!After 3 months of struggle and hope that things may change, i asked for a break. It's been a few months now. He calls me from time to time and i'm going to see him next week. But I'm scared and still a little bit depressed. On one hand, I'm scared i don't love him and on the other hand, that he'll find someone else while i'm trying to figure out what's wrong with me. I think about him a lot but bad memories come back at the same time. I feel like I'm never gonna love anyone again if I fell out of love with someone for whom i have such great feelings.What can I do to make this situation better? How to explain things to him so that he understands?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 November 2009):
Have you spoke to someone about your depression? Because perhaps that is having a bad effect on your still. Also, have you addressed what it was that suddenly caused you to change your feelings? Did he get too close? Has something happend to you before that caused you to be scared of commitment? You need to address these issues, and then tell your ex that you are struggling to indentify what is going on in your life and you would appreciate his patience. Be aware though, that if you need a lot of time, the chances are you will lose him.
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