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female
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anonymous
writes:There is a man at work who i have feelings for and i am unsure wether his feelings are reciprocated! i want to give you the full story so you can make a judgement. when i first met this man i had a boyfriend but i felt as though he fancied me, dont ask me how, just call it intuition! As i had a boyfriend nothing happened nor did i wish it to i didnt really have feelings for him then,this was around may 2007! I eventually broke up with my boyfriend in august of last year and moped around for a couple of months as you do after 2 and a half years with someone! Eventually i became my usual smiley self again (i have a sunny disposition!!!)This man started to fancy me again but this time i was told by my colleagues as i was totally unaware, he would talk to me about settling down his drinking, he would help me out with anything i asked, he always used to playfully jump out at me and my colleague said he always hanging around! i decided to leave this job and we swapped numbers, we texted constanly but he didnt seem to be asking me out so i said (as im dumb) 'are you not interested in asking me out' he said 'its not that im not interested but i am a bit busy with the mortgage advisor and moving house but we will sort something out' he never got back to me because i think i freaked him out by being so forward!! oops rookie mistake!! we kinda lost contact after that! Any way my new job turned out to be rubbish, so i went back to my old job by then i had accepted that he wasnt going to get back to me and had put him to the back of my mind!! When i saw him on my first day back my spark for him came back and i think maybe his did to, at the end of the conversation he kind of backed away slowly whilst looking at me, sat down and then looked at me again, hes always pleased to see me, makes an obvious effort to keep conversation going,if he sees me on my own he always chats to me and he sits with me on break, he helped me with my work even though he was with his friend (he helped me fill the canteen vending machine)i didnt ask for his help he just started doing it.When he says hi he says 'hello gorgeous',he doesnt say this to other girls. I linked arms with him once and this progressed to hand holding (would a man do this with any woman?) i was talking to him and i went to leave to get on with my work and he said 'but i like having you around!' so i stayed a bit longer! but most of all it feels like he is attracted to me!!is that silly? The only thing that makes me doubt myself is if i text him he always replies instantly and asks questions but seems to stop the conversation after one or two texts!!? why is this?????does this mean he is not really interested or that he prefers to talk face to face we see each other around 3 times a week, could it be that he doesnt see the point in texting?do you think he could be attracted to me or does he just know i fancy him?how can i let him know how i feel should i be chatty, smiley and touchy feely (huggy)?he seems very shy even though he looks like he should be really confident with women! i am 21 he is 25!!! i really hope you can help!!!thanks in advance
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reader, salvation +, writes (20 April 2008):
it sounds like he likes you so i would talk to him about it set up a date it doesnt sound like you meet much outside of work that might be something to consider watch a movie or have dinner etc. As for showing him you like him act the way you always do.
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