A
male
age
30-35,
*geek
writes:hey I'm going back out with my ex gf(she asked me bak out this time). we went out about...2 or 3 months ago. lasted about a month then we broke up. we are essentially best friends and from what I understand she broke up with me then because she was guilty from cheating on me with some other dude. I'm worried about her cheating on me again cause she has had a record of cheating on everyone she goes out with. how do I like not be worried bout her cheating? or maybe do something to prevent it?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 April 2008):
 I'm going to be the boring old auntie here. You're still so young and have so much of your future ahead of you. At your age, you shouldn't feel tied down to a girlfriend, unless you two are truly committed to each other...
Could I suggest that you continue to be just friends with her, and not tie yourself down to a girl you don't really trust, so that you give yourself the chance to meet other people and learn more about the world and yourself?
She may be the love of your life and you'll end up getting married and walking off into the sunset together... so I could be totally wrong about this. But she might also be an insecure girl who needs to make sure that she has a guy on 'back-up' and because you seem to be a nice guy who has feelings for her, she might just be using you for consolation and affirmation of her desirability...
My advice to you is to give her 2 or 3 months of just friendship, no sex, not boyfriend/girlfriend stuff. Just sheer simple best friend kind of support. Then, if you still feel comfortable with her and want to be with her, then go for it. But don't let yourself be pressured to get back together with her if you're not really sure.
Again, I go back to your age. You could miss out on some really good opportunities for friendship and growth if you're worrying about a girl who is only focused on herself.
I'm not trying to put her down or say that she's unreliable or a cheater, I'm just suggesting that maybe getting back together with her is not in your best interests at the moment...
Okay?
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