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writes:Hi I'm a 21 years old male I'm here for help with some issues that I'm trying to deal with but don't know so please take your time to read my story and help me or give me some advice.This is me, a straight male who had never been or slept with a man before; I have been straight for like 20 years I never had those gay thoughts or feelings. It started in FEB. 2010 I was sleeping with my best friend on small a bed, I was trying to reach for the cover and I felt his penis, honestly i don't know how it happened but I started touching his penis - when I'm done with my curiosity I went back to sleep but ever since that day when we sleep on the same bed i keep on doing the same thing.One day I decided to tell him that I'm so confused, I told him that I had be touching him when he's asleep, he didn't get mad or say anything to hurt my feelings but he told me to control them which is hard to do. He let me snuggle, cuddle with him but when I'm trying to touch his penis he pushes my hand away sometimes, he just let it go but He don't do those things to me though; He said reason why he don't get mad at me is because he knows that I'm not really gay or bi.Honestly people I don't want to have sex with him or suck him I just like to touch him that's all and I only have those feelings for him when I'm with other guys I'm 100% straight but when I'm with him and we are alone I keep having those feelings for him, I don't know if this a crush but I just have strong feelings for my best friend and I'm trying to change but I just don't know how. I talked to my friend about it almost every day but he keeps telling me to relax, the feelings will go away one day and he told me not worry about having those feelings and just pray. I Love my best friend, not because he's trying to deal with me touching him but because he's a true friend no doubt about it; anyway english is not that great but I tried lol so please i'm begging y'all to read my story and help me find the true side of me. I love women by the way. thanks
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 I THINK that you might be bisexual, at least, even though you currently don't want to have any real sexual relations with him, other than fondling him, my guess is that if he reciprocated it would lead to other activities eventually culminating in actual sexual relations beit oral, anal or both. That being said it sounds to me like you are struggling MORE with your feelings about the whole situation. Feelings that are a result of cultural indoctrination. In order to be comfortable with yourself... you're going to have to UNlearn these. Stop thinking it's BAD to have feelings for someone... and stop thinking it's BAD to touch someone else. Do keep in mind though that if your friend doesn't WANT you touching him... then you shouldn't. It's just that simple. I mean... would you want someone touching YOU if you weren't comfortable with it?Now, if you find that you want to touch someone OTHER than your friend then you are definitely treading into being bi/gay arena... and you'll just have to find someone else... who's attracted to you... that wants to have that sort of relationship with you - even if it doesn't involve any emotional attachment.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (29 September 2010):
 maybe you are fighting with temptation. u should not sleep on the same bed with someone of the same sex you are attracted to.
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reader, Baller2015 +, writes (29 September 2010):
Baller2015 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't think is because we sleep on the same bed cause I act like that when we are sitting next to each other etc.... but do you think that i'm gay cause honestly i'm not attracted to other men believe it or not If I was really like that i woulda told y'all;I think my situation is weird,complicated I just don't know how to stop it.
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reader, Baller2015 +, writes (29 September 2010):
Baller2015 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think is because we sleep on the same bed cause I act like that when we are sitting next to each other etc.... but do you think that i'm gay cause honestly i'm not attracted to other men believe it or not If I was really like that i woulda told y'all;I think my situation is weird,complicated I just don't know how to stop it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): Hello, OP. I can maybe understand where you are coming from. Maybe you find touching him in that way exciting because it has always been "taboo" in your mind. I'm a woman who has intense sexual fantasies about being with women sometimes, but I'm straight and have no intention on acting on these fantasies. I just get turned on by it because it's naughty. Maybe some new bedroom kink will help you explore and alleviate these phallic fondling urges! Try to stay open-minded to your sexual preferences too. You learn more about yourself and sexual desires as you age; maybe you are tapping into a part of your sexuality you have suppressed? Take care!
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reader, Baller2015 +, writes (28 September 2010):
Baller2015 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI REALLY NEED YOUR HELP PEOPLE.
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