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writes:Hey Cupid family! I've got this question that I have to get off my chest. I live in this neighbourhood with my family(sister, brother and mum), and apparently It's like most of the people dislike us. We mind our own business but every other day while passing near our house they make nasty comments about us;esp me and my sister. So my question is why would someone who doesn't even know you do that and how do you handle such situations? Thanks!
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reader, YoungButNotNaive +, writes (13 May 2014):
 I'm the same way, as far as not following the crowd. I guess some people just refuse to accept people who are different. And while some people have talked to me when they saw me, they didn't seem to want to hang out or be friends. There has only one person since I've been in my 20s who has made an effort to get close to me, and that's only because he wants more than friendship. I keep telling myself I'll meet the right people one day.
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reader, Nikiwe +, writes (13 May 2014):
Nikiwe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your response . I think they have self esteem issues probably. As far as I can remember, even when we were younger,In elementary school, most people would talk bad about us and this went on up to Uni. Maybe they want us to conform, because we don't follow the crowd, I don't know!
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reader, YoungButNotNaive +, writes (12 May 2014):
I wouldn't take it personally. Some people are just unfriendly. They probably talk behind each others backs, even if they're nice to each other face to face.
My husband and I lived in an apartment community like what you described 3-4 years ago. This was in the US. People didn't say hello, even if we said it to them. If they were with someone, sometimes they'd whisper to each other. Then once we'd passed them we'd hear them laughing. Whenever we'd see someone by themselves, they never seemed happy.
Then we lived in another apartment community one town over, and it was the opposite. People approached us, and struck up a conversation when they saw us. Nothing about us had changed, so what was the difference between the 2 places? What it tells me is how people treat others is based on how they feel about themselves. Some people treat others badly because they have low self esteem. Some do it because they genuinely believe they're "better" than others. No matter what their reason is, though, it's not your problem.
It's nothing you (or I) did wrong, and not about what we could do better. I guess you could try being friendly to them, and see how they react. Maybe at least some of them will come around.
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