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writes:My ex and I had something really special and we really cared for each other but we have now been done for 2 months. I still really love him and I know he still likes me. Ive reserched some on how to get an ex back sadly did some of the bad signs. Now though i've refreshed my life you can say but I still want to get him back in. Any tips on how I can get my ex back, he is currently in a relationship but it is kind of rocky my friends say. Please give tips on how to get him back to wanting me. He said currently to a friend he loves me a lot as a friend but isnt so hot on me as a girlfriend right now and i know it is because of my past jelously but im over and refreshed and want to show good signs to winning him back.Please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): hey I know what ur going through I'm going through it to just let him come 2 u trust me it works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat las thing posted was a real help. It tied it all together I feel. He hasnt asked a girl out yet and im definatly gonna try all those things I know its probably gonna be a while but oh well. His family actually really adores me but i havent seen his mom in ages since she has been gone. His little brothers though really like me and its funny how they alwasy end up askin me why he broke it off. I know his twin(ferternal) always says he doesnt see why he couldnt stay with me bc we were best out of all of his relationships he has had.
Thanks will totally keep in mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): i know what its like to love someone and the idea of them being with someone else wants to make you sick. but if you realy love him and think theres a chance for you to have a future together and you must go for it. you only live once. here are tips that i plan to use to get my ex back intime for christmas so i hope they help you.(1) trying and look stunning all the time so he can see what hes missing out on, its very hard to not fall for someone when u are so attracted to them.(2)try and make him jealous, not just with guys but show him that you are having a great time in your life and that things are going really well for you(3) show him that u have learnt your lesson on being jelous and that you have realized that it was all in ur head. dont make it out that u want him back though, talk as though ur thinking of future relationships.(4)become good good friends. the more time you spend together to more chance that he will become attached to you and see the new person you have became.(5) somehow try and arrange a night together whare you stay the night together it could be anywhere ur home his home a hotel a friends,but make out that u just want to be friends then make sure that you have the fake tan on the nice pjs and who knows what might happen. (6) when u spend time together try and be a really fun person women love when guys make us laugh but some woman forget that they 2 would like it if agirl made him laugh.(7) tring and bring up good times like places u went things u did together. he might look back and realize that it was not all bad.(8) this is important. make his family love u. if ur family love u he will be more inclined to date again. family matters a lot in relationships. if the family hate u then there is a really unlikely chance u will get back together. (9)try and be the most fun loving happist girl in the world and show him that if u went back together it would be great without making it 2 obivious, dont tell him show him what he is missing out on. if ur funny happy loving and stunning then why would he not come back.(10) do not do anything with him until he has finished with his girlfriend imagine if it was you. dont be selfish tell him that he must end it with her first beforte u do anything. hope u find this helpful good luck and remember communication it the kay, but sometimes it really is just over.GOOD LUCK XXXX WB IF POSSILBE XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): i know what its like to love someone and the idea of them being with someone else wants to make you sick. but if you realy love him and think theres a chance for you to have a future together and you must go for it. you only live once. here are tips that i plan to use to get my ex back intime for christmas so i hope they help you.(1) trying and look stunning all the time so he can see what hes missing out on, its very hard to not fall for someone when u are so attracted to them.(2)try and make him jelous, not just with guys but show him that you are having a great time in your life and that things are going really well for you(3) show him that u have learnt your lesson on being jelous and that you have realized that it was all in ur head. dont make it out that u want him back though, talk as though ur thinking of future relationships.(4)become good good friends. the more time you spend together to more chance that he will become attached to you and see the new person you have became.(5) somehow try and arrange a night together whare you stay the night together it could be anywhere ur home his home a hotel a friends,but make out that u just want to be friends then make sure that you have the fake tan on the nice pjs and who knows what might happen. (6) when u spend time together try and be a really fun person women love when guys make us laugh but some woman forget that they 2 would like it if agirl made him laugh.(7) tring and bring up good times like places u went things u did together. he might look back and realize that it was not all bad.(8) this is important. make his family love u. if ur family love u he will be more inclined to date again. family matters a lot in relationships. if the family hate u then there is a really unlikely chance u will get back together. (9)try and be the most fun loving happist girl in the world and show him that if u went back together it would be great without making it 2 obivious, dont tell him show him what he is missing out on. if ur funny happy loving and stunning then why would he not come back.(10) do not do anything with him until he has finished with his girlfriend imagine if it was you. dont be selfish tell him that he must end it with her first beforte u do anything. hope u find this helpful good luck and remember communication it the kay, but sometimes it really is just over.GOOD LUCK XXXX WB IF POSSILBE XX
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (7 November 2007):
 First of all you should consider that you might love him but it's possible he doesn't reciprocate so he has chosen to move on. Don't get between the new relationship it will only cause you more heartache.
Back off and let him do what he needs in this new relationship. If he really cares for you eventually he will figure it out and come back. If not just be prepared to be his friend.
If you are already in the friendship status with your ex then you do have something still left there I am sure. Let him see you as you treat him with kindness and communicate with him as his friend. Don't push his buttons by trying to make him feel guilty. Don't put yourself between him and his new girlfriend. Be nice to her and let them see your grace. Be genuine that you want him to be happy because it will help you to easier find your own happiness.
In the long run if he never wants to come back into a b/f and g/f realtionship with you then you must accept it. It is then you must truely move on. Whatever you do, love him but do it without using his friends to talk to about it. It will make him angry and will push him farther away.
Give him the chance to figure out what he feels. In time he will see the difference in you if you are earnst in your intentions with him. Give him the chance to figure out what he feels where you are concerned and take it from there. Remember it is far better to be a friend than an enemy!
God bless you and may you find the strenght to allow his will into your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay like its not like we ended abduprtly like he said he wasnt feeling the old passion we had so thats why he broke it off it wasnt becasue of some cheating thing or something like that. Thanks so far out of things i've heard.
I read somewhere that i should hide all feelings and look like im completely over and confident. Not to show him nd tell him i love 4x a day, if you get what im getting at.
Countuine to reply though
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): If the feelings are there then everyone deserves a second chance. But you shouldn't try to get someone back if they don't want you. Maybe he see you as mate a nothing more, otherwise he would have come back to you.
You should concentrate on just being yourself and making yourself happy. That way if he does come back you'll be a more independent person and if he doesn't it won't matter anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Why do you have to have your ex back??? Especially if he is with someone else. Why do you want to wreck their lives? Stop thinking solely of yourself and move on, find someone new. It cannot of been that wonderful what you two had or you wouldnt of split up in the first place. Get him out of your head and move on.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): I think maby if he still wants a friend you can be there for him when he is having trouble with his new gf, just let him know that if he ever needs to talk or needs a friend you are there for him.. Maby then he will see the real you again. Good Luck!
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reader, jodie  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 hi bbe!!!!!!if things didnt work out then that doesnt show good signs for a start but anyway, tell ur friends to let him know u av changed and luv him so much!make sure he knows u av feelings for him and want mostly things that he might want in a relationship!gd luck x hope i helped bbe xx jode xx
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 Okay - firstly i want to say - I don't think it is a good idea to try and win him back. If things didn't work out, there was a reason, and sometimes the damage we do to relationships can't be mended.
In saying that, i can still give you a couple of tips if your mind is set on winning him back.
If he still 'loves' you as a friend, the door is still open, and not entirely shut, so there might still be some hope.
You need to get closer to him as a friend. Become a great friend to him, and even give him some advice on his current relationship. Try and be sincere in your advice, because this will show him that he can trust you. Be soft, and don't be overbearing. Be there for him when you can, but don't take it personally when he can't be there for you. Remember - you are now just friends.
Do little things for him - that won't annoy his current girlfriend, like affirming how cute she is, or telling him about a cool place he can take her. Be calm, and just be a really good friend. And like i said before, don't take it personally if he doesn't see you as a good friend straight away. He saw you as a gf before, and now he sees you as an ex, and you will have to put in some honest effort for him to see you as a friend.
Just show him how NICE you are, and show him that he can trust you.
He will eventually see you in a different light, and when he does, he might consider taking you back.
If he doesn't - cut your losses, and move on.
Good luck girl
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