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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok, my boyfriend and I have talked about getting married one day. I told him I wanted a big wedding and he said he couldn't do that because he will get real nervous and probably pass out. Any suggestions for I can make him over come this fear?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): You will know the time is right to talk about future wedding plans when your BF proposes. Talking about the type and size of your future wedding is just silly before an engagement.
His reasoning for not wanting a big wedding is just him trying to be funny. Weddings are easy for grooms. Rent a tux and show up on time.
Don't try and force it. If its meant to be it will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): I agree... it doesn't sound like he's ready. If you push the issue, it can break your relationship up.
Let him warm up to the idea by accepting any wedding invitations that may come your way. Take him with you (obviously) so he can see what the whole event is about. I do suggest NOT mentioning anything about getting married unless he does.
Buuuut... Be sure to get yourself right up in front for when the bride does the bouquet toss! A subtle hint like that is hard to ignore (and you didn't have to say a word).
Good luck!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 November 2007):
 Well, firstly it sounds like he's not exactly ready for walking down the aisle... but, just remind him that everyone at the wedding will be friends and family and they're just coming to celebrate with you. Tell them everyone will have smiles and full hearts... tell him they won't mind mistakes.
A wedding is a happy day! It's normal to be nervous, but just remind him to remember WHY he's there in the first place. To marry you, and show your love to each other in front of everyone who is close to you.
I think he'll come around with some time. I think he's just not exactly ready for marriage, but when the big day comes - I promise you he won't pass out. And if he does, well... you'll have really funny memories from the wedding.
xxIndia
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