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writes:How to fall in love with my husband again?We've been married for 5 years, and we have 3.5 y.o. daughter. About 2 years ago, I've met a guy on my friend's b-day party. All sudden I started to have feeling for him, so did he. We would chat online a lot, meet for a lunch once a while....feeling started to get stronger and stronger.....I told my husband that I started to have feelings for someone else, I explained it as our marriage started to be boring....and I promised I wont see him again. I broke the promised and....cheated.It was crazy, I lost my mind after that, I started going out every weekend with my friends. That guy had his long distance relationship girlfriend over for a couple of weeks, so we split up. While I was going out with my friends I've met another guy, who was extremily romantic, but full of bs as I found out later. So for some reason I started to have some feelings for him...I thought I was falling for him...thanks God he had to move to different country, so we separeted...I was sad. As you cheat once, its hard to stop. Its just became easy, but the result I was going through some very bad depression, and I know what was it. It was guit! So I decided to try to fix what was wrong with me...went to psycologist, but could not open up to him. I was so ashamed. Few months later I've met another guy...i know...sounds awfull. we became really good friends. i actually was not even attracted to him. We were just real good friends. I knew that he liked me more than that though. our friendship last about 7 months, and then I cought myself that I started having deep feelings for this guy. We admitted to each other that we are in love. our affair last for about 10 months....it was bad. my husband knew about it, we were talking about divorce....but something stopped me ....My husband still loved me, I love my daughter to death, i always wanted her to have daddy and mommy. And i always knew that its imposible to build new relationship like that. So I broke up with that guy. Living with my husband and daughter far away from him. Husband forgave me and still love me. I just really want to fall in love with him and be happy.I do realize how messed up I am. I hate myself for that, i hate myself for thoses choices I've made. I am still trying to figure out whatt is wrong with me. i really do want to change
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reader, lerato29  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 yo situation is sad but its good that you want to work on yo marriege,firstly try to look back and remember why u fell inluv with him then try some romantic get away dont think of anything else but u and him.dont talk about yo problems but just remind each other how much u love each other maybe it will help.as for yo husband you are lucky to have him by yoside.if he didnt luv u hell b gone.good luck.try not to cheat again work on your marriege.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Thank God at last you understood that was all wrong that you have done but your husband might have hurt a lot by you, try to talk to him in a gentle way when he is alone and just show the true love and definatly God will help you because God joined you both. The reason you were behind others is you never felt love in your husband and you need express this with your husband then only you will recieve love from your husband, no problem do it now
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): try not to blame your self to much, maybe the best way to try and fall in love with your husband is to take a holiday, or a romantic dinner or what ever you did to fall in love with him at the start maybe repeat it over again and maybe spend less time with other guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): you are not going to like this advice:
you are out of control. you cannot and will not remain faithful to your husband. how many men have you deceived your husband with thus far? 4? 5? i don to think you clearly know what love is. if you want to stop this mess i suggest you divorce your husband. allow him the right to find a faithful partner. you may want him to have custody of your daughter because right now you are thinking with your virgina and not your head. at this rate your daughter will start to hate you or even worse she will start displaying this sluttish behaviour as she grows up. is this what you want?
you have no excuse for sleeping your way through different men. please get a discease check up beacuse you may never know what your lovers may have been carrying. you are destroying 2 innocent people (husband and daughter) and this is just plain cruel.
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reader, dyeruz  +, writes (10 August 2010):
You cant force yourself to love your husband, you haven't cheated once but many times, you've wilfully allowed yourself to develop multiple emotional attachments to these men, you act like your single yet you have a husband and daughter at home. A psychologist cant help you if you're not willing to be honest with yourself first, whatever it is that makes you knowing go out and befriend different men and fall in love with them, it doesn't involve your loving husband who's willing to forgive you after so much deceit. You are lucky to have him, fight for your marriage otherwise you will lose him and your daughter.
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