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writes: Dear agony aunt, me and my girlfriend of eight months have recently decided to send sexually explicit pictures of each other. Before she could her mom saw the text messages saying what i wanted. So she threatened to call the school so we can't sit by each other, (but didnt do it yet), told her to break up with me (she refuses to), and i cant sit by her at church. I need to know what to do, because we are in love and neither of us are trying to use each other. So how to i get her back with me and see her? Her dad is a calm guy who talks things out and her mother was tearing down curtains. She is not allowed to see me at all and i need ways to be with her too? And if i have to write that as a seperate question please post it. Thank you.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 she obviously has an overprotective mother who is trying to look out for her.Her mother probably thinks your just a guy who is trying to get into her knickers and thinks your disrespectful for asking this of her daughter.you have to think she sees her daughter as innocent and maybe she thinks that her daughter is not ready to get involved with guys in a sexual way.there isnt much you can do apart from trying to speak to her family together as an adult thing to do explain yourself not that it will change her mothers mind but you never no its all to do with your girlfriend trying to talk her mother round to be honest with you but your obviously both young still in school maybe it is abit soon to be doing things like this but text messages are to do with privacy and her mother shouldnt have looked at her phone
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 You do understand that being in possession of a sexually explicit picture of a person your age (under 18) is a felony in the United States, don't you? This is a really bad idea. The legal aspects of this situation are just the tip of the iceberg. The social and psychological effects of having your nude pictures spread around the community, are devastating to people your age. Don't tell me you weren't planing on sharing them with anyone else. Once a picture has been transmitted electronically, it seems to get a life of it's own. You really are playing with fire here. You were going to get burned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): I know you must be missing this girl, but I think the best thing you can do right now is stay away. I think if you try and see her, it will only make things worse, and a lot harder for both of you.
I can't say that I blame the girl's mother for reacting the way she did. I'm guessing your girlfriend is the same age as you? Naturally, her mother is trying to protect her, and you, from doing anything sexual, as you are underage. I think most parents would react the same way, and I think she is being quite lenient actually that she hasn't done more!
Maybe you could try and speak to her parents, and explain that you care about her and would still like to see her. But if you are still planning to send each other sexually explicit pictures, then I'm not so sure they will see your side of things.
I think it might be best to just stay at a distance for now. Maybe when things have calmed down, the situation might improve. But I advise against trying to see each other behind her parent's back, as this will just create mistrust and more problems. Wait, let things cool down, and then maybe try approaching her parents. I hope this helps. x
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