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writes:I've an extra marital affair from last 6months. I'm emotionally connected with him but I don't understand does he really loves me or he is only after physical relationship? He doesn't have a kid nd completed 6yrs. Of his marriage. I have a adopted daughter.Me nd my husband r not at all physically comnected,even he is not interested. Now I'm an extra marital affair. I love my boy friend so much... But want to come out of it..but I'm unable to make my heart.plz let me know what do nd how can I forget him..plz do need full..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2012): I have been the mistress of my "boyfriend" for almost 5 years. He has been married to his wife (and mother of his two kids) almost 11 years. I have to say I agree with the previous replys that say you should worry about your husband/boyfriend/whatever you think of him as before you get to stressing about your other guy. There will be PLENTY if time to deal with all that 'fun'. (FYI - brace for heartbreak and hope for the best.) Best of luck!
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 well ( does he really love me or is he only interested in physical relationship? ). he is married and you can presume he is not going to leave his wife. he is getting what he wants at home and from you.you are emotionally connected to him because you gave your self to him physically , their is a emotional bond created by sex. now your heart is divided between your husband , and the other guy.what you have is a relationship built on mistrust. he is married and cheated ( unfaithful to his wife ). what is stopping him from cheating more on her with other women.you cheated on your husband ( unfaithful to your husband ).i see two marriages that have been cheated on."what to do and how to forget him" you need to talk to your husband and let him know you need more physical love from him. the boyfriend if you desire to stay with your husband you need to break it off from the boyfriend and not see him any more. if you keep seeing the other guy you will be tempted and have sex with him. the decision is yours.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 You say you and your husband are not connecting physically. Should I assume that there is some emotional connection at least? It does not seem like there is since you are connecting more with this boyfriend of yours than your husband, else you would not have mentioned the particular emotional attachment you have to him. Am I correct?
Whatever the case, I think you should deal with your marriage first. Either separate from your husband or talk about these issues with him. Otherwise, you will only end up longing to be away from this marriage and the temptation to have another extra-marital affair will be too great.
I cannot tell you whether or not this boyfriend of yours actually loves you or not, 6 months is too short a time to tell. You can always just cut all contact with him and try your hardest to forget it and redeem yourself of it.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Beloved BV +, writes (16 May 2012):
 Dear,I want to give a wise suggestion- Never cheat on Somebody. if you love your husband faithfully and sincerely he will too someday change his mind and love you back. You just need time to understand his wants at right time. Suggesting is easy but in my case, I loved a boy who was three years older to me that means he is 26. He is still having a relationship with a woman of 36 (married)We were about to get married but fate has kept us apart as that woman has ruined my life and his. I am broken now with this betrayal. My story aside...We always think of ourselves. Just question yourself- Am I doing correct? Will that boy will have a good life with somebody else who in case know about my relation? Will my husband will tolerate my act of unfaithfulness? Will I forgive myself of being so? What about my child?Just think on it. Time will seriously heal your wounds my friend. Just have faith. When you keep yourself in others shoes, then you will know what you must do!! You shared your problem here that means you yourself somewhere in your heart is searching for an answer and you know very well that you are doing something really wrong towards many... Try to focus... Thinks by heart and don't forget to use your brain too... Its never late to correct ourselves. Thank you friend Do take care of yourself ;)God Bless!!Beloved BV
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (16 May 2012):
I think you need to address the problems in your marriage and see if you should part from your husband. That is the root cause of your situation, so start there.
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