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writes:(Is he trying to turn my head or is he serious? and Is it possible to love someone when you are married? Is the background and past posts to this post. Thanks for answering! I saw him yesterday and immediately he wanted one of our 'hugs', I gave it to him shyly. Then for the rest of the day i tried to stay busy and away from him . I did my job and was short but polite in answering his friendly or work related concerns. Well he and I can sense things in eachother and when he got me alone, he asked why I was being so distant. I just told him in so many words, I can't be 'on' everyday. (I'm very full of life most often..but given my attempts to break this 'thing' I was a bit depressive). Later he tried joking with me and then eventually said to me, that he had an issue with me. I stopped and aksed why, I'm doing my job, my work. He said no your treating me like a red headed step child, what is goin on with you. I told him that I was doing some adjusting.(over his head), He said well, don't be mad at me for it. Then walked away. I felt bad. I dunno what to do now. There is a work Christmas party and his wife will be there. I really don't want to go now. I mean what if she were to pick up on our attraction? We never had anything physical happen, and now, WONt", but I dunnno, I just need some advice, on how to properly behave at work with him, and do I not go to this party, though it might be a good move regarding my job, I dunno?? Thanks So much
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reader, eddie  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 I like the way you described the way you greet him as one of "our hugs". DON'T hug him. It is not a cutesy little thing because there are feelings behind it. If you want to avoid a bad situation, don't flirt with him. Watch your back though. Let this be a lesson that you shouldn't start something you are not entitled to finish. As for the party, if there are others there, you can go. Just don't go out of your way to be around him. Why would you, he's married.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (16 November 2008):
 I would be very matter of fact about this. Tell him he is married for one thing, that you respect other women and refuse to be toyed with. That his behavior is not professional at all. That your job is very important and he needs to respect you and his wife and stop playing games. Does his wife know he flirts with women? Tell him if he wants to ruin his marriage to find someone else. Just don't let him intimidate you!
What he is doing is illegal!!!! If he fires you you can sue him! Keep notes, have witnesses as to this nonsense.
Don't go to the party. Are you married or do you have a boyfriend? If he asks you personal questions tell him that is unprofessional and your private life is no one's business. You might have to find another job. He sounds like a power trip pig.
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