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writes:Hey well I'm a gay male, and I have a little dilemma....Well I have a crush on one of my friends and I kinda wanna ask him out, as a FRIEND!My problem is, that I get kind of shy, loose, and bubbly and he ends up assuming I'm drunk.... sorry that's besides the point! uhmm.... well when I ask some of my other friends to go to the mall or something, I can do it easily, but whenever I talk to my CRUSH friend I get all... yeah.... so any advice on how to ask him to hang out, without getting kinda shy and stuff? I've tried it once and he thought I was drunk, but when I was talking to him I was getting kinda nervous, so any pointers how to be a little calmer or just plain normal when I ask him out? cuz I kinda miss hanging with him.... AS A FRIEND.....
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reader, lboy  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 dear reader,
i think if your that nervous about asking this guy out you might want to take things in steps, the first few times ask him out with a few more friends that way you shouldn't be as nervous about asking him, i think most of the nerves come from the fact that you know your asking him out alone, ask him out with friends a few times and get comfortable around him, then try and ask him out just the two of you, maybe wait until there is something you actually have to go out and buy and ask him just for the simple reason that you don't want to go alone, that way you shouldn't feel too nervous because it won't feel like a friend date or anything then maybe when your out just randomly ask if he fancies going to see a movie or say you feel like getting some food or coffee and use the time to chat and stuff and get to know him more alone, this will get you used to being alone with him, then the next time you want to ask him out it will be just that little bit easier and after a while it'll be as simpe as breathing in and out, i've had the same problem with some of my crushes and trust me all that makes you nervous is that your not used to being around this guy alone, trust me, give what i've said a try and things should start to go perfect for you.
well thats all the advice i have
good luck
lboy
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): LOL you remind me of myself when I was younger. Whenever I see the guy I like, I'd turn red and don't know what to say but after I got my part-time job and had a short relationship I ended up able t control it. Get to know what he likes or where he likes to go and plan out what you want to say. If for example he likes yugioh cards then ask if he wants to go to a card store nearby. If he likes video games then ask if he wants to go to an arcade or to some other gamestore xD. Another wat to calm yourself down is I guess...look at him more often and get it out of your system. Stay calm and act natural and everything will turn out fine~ my "crush friend" is actually my best friend and he has no idea that I'm bisexual and that I like him. We would ask each other to go to places and sometimes ask other friends to come with. Just get to know him better and talk to him more often. You could always just ask him over the internet? msn? yahoo? whatever works Well Good Luck XXX
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 You just need to tell yourself that it is absolutely normal to ask him to hang out with you and that there is nothing wrong with it. Just put the tiger in the tank and ask him. However if your in love with him its totally normal that you are shy around him untill you break the ice. Good luck!.
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