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writes:I found out that I have HPV a few months ago. I have the type that can only cause cervical cancer. There are no other symptoms. I am now dating a new guy. We have not had sex yet. I need to tell him that I have this before it gets that far. I am scared to death. But, it is my responsibility to tell him. Because, although he will not have any problems with this, he can give it to other girls if we do not stay together. How should I go about doing this? Do you think he will freak out? Reply to this Question
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reader, cursed4life +, writes (27 March 2009):
Hell yes you should tell him. Dont you wish the person you got it from would have told u?
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reader, skatergrl76  +, writes (6 January 2009):
You should tell him. I found out I had the same thing and told the guy I dating soon afterwards....he was ok about it. It is not my fault I got HPV...all my bf's were always checked beforehand...but guys can't get tested for HPV. I have since had surgery and the abnormal cells taken away...I feel much better....there is life after this. Tell him...its the right thing to do, but don't be dramatic about it...lots of people have this...we just happened to get the bad strain of it :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): It is just a wart virus and he can get warts on his penis too, even from his own hand. He won't get it from you once
you have been treated and have the all-clear. I had it an once years ago the treatment ended, it is a cure. I got married and had a baby. I have had several serious partners and just told them I had had some changes on my cervix and had been advised not to have unprotected sex with anyone until given the all clear. Need you say more? It is not like herpes which flares up occasionally all your life. Don't get hung up, you are not a leper, it is just the same as getting a verucca on your foot from the swimming pool. Infectious while still there but not after it is gone. He may have been exposed by another person anyway, it may not cause symptoms just stay embedded in his dna. People catch bugs and viruses all the time, sometimes they don't even know it. Your body fights it and retains an imprint. Happens all the time and that is how our immune responses get stronger. However, you do have to be sensible and keep both of you protected, you would not want it back again from him, for as long as your doctor says you should..
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reader, Cat_87  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Firsty how long have u been with this guy? If you do not feel able to talk openly about this then are you sure he is right for you? After all if he really loves you/ cares about you he will understand your problem but also respect you for telling him! He will also respect that you must use condoms
Hope that helps! Good Luck!
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