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writes:Last week i found out that my boyfriend of 3 months cheated on me and when i confronted him he denied it he was crying hysterically and we tried to talk about it. He finally admitted to cheating once with 1 girl but claims he doesnt know what happened and cannot explain his actions he was not drunk or under the influence of any drugs. He has been remorseful and has been crying and begging for me to give us another chance, telling me he realizes he made a big mistake he could ultimately pay for with the rest of his life.He says he loves me and vows never to do this again,claiming it is not something he believes in, my question is is it possible for this to be true is once a cheater always a cheater or is there a chance that he truly regrets his actions and will never do this he has agreed to go for therapy to find out why he did this, no whether he will go or not is a different story. What can i do to make him prove to me that he is genuine and that he is truly sorry for cheating and that he will never do it again he wants us to get married and im scared that he will be a repeat offender and by then it will be to late.-broken-
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 hey,
first of all i wanna tell you that : why don't you give him another chance?because after what you described for us i think MAYBE he won't do it again and maybe he will( no one can answer that).
anyways take things slow! why are you talking about marriage and you have only known each other for 3 months!:S?i think that marriage now is a bad idea,maybe he just said it to try and prove that he won't repeat cheatting again! but you have to be sure about that. and be CAREFUL, don't get into somthing that complicated right away! give it time! 3 months is a very short period.
anyways good luck byeXXX.
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 He is talking about marriage and you have only been with him 3 months? He has already cheated in 3 months? Counseling after only 3 months?
If I were you I would leave this guy alone. This is only the beginning and you guys have gotten off on the wrong foot. I would quit while I was ahead.
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reader, 209jess  +, writes (13 November 2007):
hi,
I can tell you for definate when someone cheats it doesn't mean they are always a cheat! my friend was heartbroken when her boyfrend cheated on her but she kept forgiving him over and over and he carried on doing it until she finally said... it's over for good! she ended it with him and told him she didnt want anything to do with hm again. He rung her regularly crying and telling her he loved her but she wouldn't have him back! New year came and she decided she wanted to give it another go but warned him that if he spoiled it this time she'd never c him again... They r now engaged and have been happy together for three yars... he hasn't cheated again!
I say everyone deserves a second chance but be sure not to let him walk all over you... warn him that if he EVER does this again you'll never forgive him and mean it! you deserve the best you can possibly have!
I hope your happy look after yourself...
Jess xx
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