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writes:I am 15 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 2 years. he is 13. We now know that we ant to be together forever. Just the other day he purposed to me and i said yes. My mom doesnt know. I want to tell her but dont know how. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): You're too young to be tied down!
And one word, hormones!!
Plus, you can't be 'on and off' in marriage. In my opinion, wait til he's at least 16. You'd regret being married so young anyway.
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reader, agony_advice  +, writes (3 January 2008):
I think you should seriously think about what you are doing? I know you may think you are an adult as you are approaching that age and although you may want to be together forever, a proposal isnt the answer!! Telling your mam could probably go two ways, either she could take it as a joke and therefore treat you as a child or she could take it too serious and this could cause her to become untrusting and limit the time you spend with your boyfriend. Just remember that if you love him and he loves you, you do not need a proposal at this young of an age, you have plenty of time for things like this in life and therefore should enjoy being a child while you still can rather than wishing your life away. Good Luck!
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (3 January 2008):
 Personally, I dont think you should be considering marriage at this age but indeed this is probably your first serious relationship. A lot of things change during your teenage years and relationships can complicate things. If this boy is really serious about you, is he willing to let you grow into a confident well-rounded woman? There are so many things that you need to go through and experience and Im not sure getting married is the answer. I think you should at least tell your mom that you and this boy are really serious about each other. You and your boyfriend should be more realistic and at least wait until you are old enough to make those decisions. Are you planning to go to college? Whats your direction in life? These are important things to consider and as you grow older and gain more life experience, you and your boyfriend may grow apart because who you are now may not be who you are at 20 or 25.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): if u know that you aren't going to be together forever why did u say yes?
you're yoo young to take engagement seriously
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reader, Serinity +, writes (3 January 2008):
 I would keep it to yourself for now. As I'm sure your are aware, the legal age in the U.S. is 18 years old. You may not like it, but legally you are her responsibility for 3 more years.
If you are that serious about this guy and you really think he is your ONE and only true love and that he is someone you want to spend the REST of your life with and you have NO doubts that you will EVER want to be with ANY other guys in your ENTIRE life.......then just stay engaged for now. What's the hurry? Your mom probably won't consent to you getting married before you're 18 yrs. old anyway, so why stress her out with all that right now? Worry about getting through high school and graduating with good grades for now. If you two are meant to be, then you should have no problems making it through high school together and getting married after you graduate. I'm sure your mom will handle this situation much better that way as well. If you tell her now your only going to create unnecessary stress and chaos. Give yourself some time to ponder this whole situation. I know it probably seems cool to be 15 yrs. old and be engaged, thinking about marriage and responsibility. But you are sooooooo young. As your mind matures you will understand that this is a very valuable time in your life. You can't get the years back. You've got plenty of time to grow up and assume responsibility, right now you should be enjoying life and concentrating on your future. I think you'll be quite surprised when you realize how hard life really is when your out on your own working, paying bills, working at your marriage, having kids, and bills and stress, and more bills. It's not easy love, take advantage of this time and use it to prepare yourself for your future. If it's meant to be, the boy will be there in the end. Good luck sweetie!
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (3 January 2008):
 well as much as he probably wants to marry you i think he might be playing a game he is not legal to marry you your not legal to marry him (would be seen as rong as u are 1 year away from the age consent of sex) he is not and he isnt age of consent to work either so theres no way he could pay for it i dont think you need to tell your mum because it would mean nothing but have a talk with her say to her he propposed to me she will give u advice and tell u exactly wat i and wat others are about to say to u it is sweet of him but i think its just a game but when your older no doubt you could get married xx hope everything goes well
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