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writes:I just "hung out" with a friend tonight who I really like and she knows I like her (we dated for a bit last year) we've been hanging out more recently cause we both joined this art group. She came down tonight ( which I found out was like a 45 minute drive for her) to hang out with me we talked and joked and walked around for 2 or so hours. I could tell she was getting tired ( it was getting late) so I took her to her car so she could get home. I gave her a hug and tried to kiss her and kissed her cheeck (I think she turned, I dunno) I texted her later to make sure she got home okay and see of she was free next week for hanging out or dinner. She said hanging out next week would work she just needed to check for a day tommorow and she was off to bed.Not sure how to take that? Was it a date? Did it go well? How did it go? Or am I just a friend to her? Advice ? Opinions?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (14 January 2012):
Hi there. You dated for a bit last year, you said.
Why didn't that continue?
Perhaps you didn't make your intentions clear to her, so she thought nothing more of it.
Even though you took her out for a short time, she might have seen it as very casual.
The reason she might have thought that way, could be if it wasn't done on a regular basis. For instance you go out on one date, and at the end of that night, you made no mention of another date.
Perhaps the dates you went on weren't on a regular basis. There might have been a few gaps in between them.
If that was the case, there might have been an assumption made by her, that it was a very casual thing for you. So maybe, that's why it didn't go on for very long.
Sometimes for things to happen properly, some hint at intent needs to be clear.
For example, at the end of one date, suggesting you go out on the following weekend. So there's some sense of continuity.
If that didn't happen last time, well then it might be wise to do it this time around. Especially if you really would like to see her again.
If this art class you are both a part of is a regular once or twice a week event, well then there's going to be plenty of chances to talk to each other each night. Then at the end of the night, you could ask her politely, if she's doing anything next weekend.
And it goes without saying, that if you don't already have her phone number - get it, promptly. Then she knows you have some intention of seeing her again.
Then, you go from there. Good luck.
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