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male
age
41-50,
*ind80
writes:My ex knows the worse thing she can do to me is to break up but she did it all the time. She decided, after one year relationship, to work in a different city. She broke up with me one month ago, then she changed mobile and didn't want to talk to me anymore. Today she sent her mobile nr saying "please call me" and "I miss you".half an hour after, she sent this email:"I am begging you to help me. I need to know if you are better on your own wherever you are, than with me,if it is over. I cannot make the death of us if you don't help me as I cannot stop thinking about us."What is she trying to do?I love her but she hurts me all the time in the same way.I don't know how to make her stop this behaviour of breaking up all the time;I don't know how to be sure she will ever want to live with me again;And I don't know how to trust her again.ALL HELP AND OPINIONS ARE DEEPLY APPRECIATED!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Lexie88 said it all. She is just seeking attention. She has you coming back to her whenever she needs some, and she feeds of the drama of your on-and-off relationship. She contacts you when it's convenient for her and when she needs someone to stroke her ego and pay attention to her games.
Don't encourage her with responses. Stop all contact and start building your life beyond her. Good luck!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 She doesn't love you. She's probably lonely and needs validation from you. She just wants attention. If she broke up with you, changed her number and didn't want to talk to you anymore...that's it. There's nothing to it.
How do you stop her? You don't respond. You don't play her games. You leave the little girl alone to play her games with someone else. You find yourself a real woman who will appreciate you and not use you.
Don't mistake her words for genuine feelings for you. If she truly loved you and cared about you she'd still be with you.
I hope you find someone better :)
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