A
female
age
30-35,
*eopardess
writes:I'm obsessed with my boyfriend's ex and the funny thing is, he was the one who broke up with her! My bf and I are colleagues working under the same company but different branches and his ex used to work at the same branch as I do. When I first started work, my colleagues would often tell me how similar I am to her, like my hair, my personality etc. I didn't mind at first cause I had no idea I was going to be attached to her ex bf! Now I'm afraid she's better than me, a better gf, a better colleague... cooler, prettier though my friends have assured me that I am prettier. I can't stop stalking her facebook, I can't stop looking at her photos whenever I'm bored and I can't stop re-reading her blog over and over again, everyday. I want to stop this because it's driving me nuts! They were together for about a year and I'm with him for 4 months now... I often ask him about his past but he doesn't like talking about it and I guess the secrecy is fueling this obsession as well... usually I'm a confident person with no self esteem issues but it looks like I do.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Yeah it does sound like you do have some self esteem issues. Now is the time to control them before they get out of hand. First of your boyfriend like many other men probably just doesnt feel comfortable talking about his ex in front of his girlfriend, so let his past be his past and stop asking him questions. As for his ex he broke up with her so obviously they werent meant for each other and now he is trying with you so dont push him away. And looks arent everything so what if she is prettier than you? it doesnt mean that she is a better person that you or makes a better girlfriend, if he wanted to be with her then he would be with her. You need to STOP checking her facebook page as this is on the border line of stalking the girl. So anytime you feel the urge to check her facebook turn of the computer and tell yourself how ridiculus it is, i mean what if your boyfriend knew you kept checkin up on his ex?? He would probably freak out, so everytime you feel like checkin her page just remember you are the one that has him not her.
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