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writes:Ok, so first I want to begin with saying that I'm in high school and though I haven't had a BF yet, I have been seriously emotionally hurt by a guy I cared deeply about and have since had a series of "guys who screw me over."Anyways, there's this guy who I talk to in school- we're not really close, but we do talk. I really don't think he's ever seen me in a "flirty/gf material way though This might sound odd, but I feel as if a true connection could really form between us. We have a lot in common including a passion for writing, and he's funny, sweet(and,I'll admit-he's gorgeous! (: ) Could you please give me some tips on appearing as "girlfriend material" to him and possibly get him to see me in a flirty/romantic way? (I already know the whole "use our common interests to bond" thing but any other tips would be great!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): FIRST- get closer to him. Become friendly.
Then, gradually start slipping in some flirting. Become a little more innocently physical- hugging, brushing his arm, standing a little closer when you talk, etc. Try some play fighting as well- I end up with guys liking me when I play fight with them even though that isn't my intention. Come to him with your problems (guys a lot of the time connect strongly with girls who do this.) Ask him to help you with little things. Ask him to review something you've written and get his opinion. Make him feel useful.
Talk to him lots. Get his number and text. Get really close. Up the flirting. Take it one step at a time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Playful sarcasm can do wonders. Not to the point that it starts being weird... just enough to make him laugh at how witty you can be and how unique you are. Light touches with giggles (not forced giggles either!) can relate to him that you're interested. Anything to not appear desperate or needy to be honest... Body language is your biggest ally in this case. Flirting is an art... bite your lower lip, walk with confidence, smile a lot, laugh, maybe write him something and ask for his opinion on it? While he's reading it, look at him and watch his facial expression. When he notices you watching him and gets all "gurl wutchu staring at me for?" just smile~
How you feel about yourself will reflect on how you act around him. If you walk up to him feeling gorgeous and nothing short of sexy, I guarantee you... he'll notice that self-confidence. Not to the extent that you come off as being stuck-up, just bring out your playful side and enjoy it!
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (9 September 2010):
part of it could be the way you act you might be sending out the wrong signals you never know maybe he is attracted to you try changing your body language to portray how you feel about him and see if he seems interested
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