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writes:I have just had my birthday, my husband gave me a small bunch of carnations and a card which he just left on the counter. The next day while cleaning up i found a receipt for the flower and card and on the receirt there was a second charge for flowers. I thought that maybe the other flowers fell off the seat of the truck,so i went to check but no flowers. What i did find was a love letter from my husband and it was not to me...it was to a woman up the street. shes a sister of a friend where my husband visits(she also has a house on the same property as her brother) when my husband came home from work that night i confronted him. i also found out he had bought her a card.my husband said she has emotional problems and he gave her the and flowers to make her feel good.he also said they where just cheap flowers anyways they where the same ones he gave me as a birthday gift. Talk ubout a slap in the face. Well, back to the love letter which he says is just a poem,but in it he writes how his heart pounds fast when he sees her and that he realizes that she is not ready for a relationship right know but he will wait and hope she picks him. That was about 13 days ago, then today i found out he bought another card and who knows what eles for her and he aslo texted her brother to ask when her birthday is.can you please help me, i don't know how to proceed
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reader, hotuke +, writes (7 March 2011):
hotuke is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your replys to my problem they have been helpful to me.but i still not really sure what to do as of yet.
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (7 March 2011):
I think you should kick him out of the house and serve him divorce papers because he has betrayed your marriage. He has already decided, long ago before you found out, that he wants this other woman. He won't just change his mind back no matter what you do. So in my opinion, unless you want to settle for sharing him with another woman, there's nothing else for you to do but preserve your own dignity by not sharing your home and heart with him any more.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 I think you need to leave him because, what he is doing is disrespectful. He is clearly lying to you, not well either. These are poor excuses he is offering you.
For all I know, he could be having a midlife crisis, perhaps that is why he is behaving this way. I do not know how long you two have been married but he seems to think that this does not mean much.
In my opinion, I think you should rethink this marriage and decide whether or not he is worth keeping around as your husband anymore. If he wants to be your husband, then he has to be there as your husband, he cannot stay married to you and run off to woo another woman, so carelessly too.
I hope that helps.
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