A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been friends with this girl for a year now and after falling in love with her, she didn't want to hurt my feelings because she knew how I felt. So she wouldn't go out with anyone for a while as she just wanted to be friends with me, which I put up with, I was never happy but you know, you can't ask for everything. So naturally she grew sick of this after inevitably finding someone she really liked, she didn't want me to stop it, so she refuses to talk to me 'til I'm over her. I want to get over her, not because I want to be friends again (I do, but more importantly..), but because it's destroying my life, I can't stop thinking about her, and she never did anything bad to me, she always wanted the best for me, she was good to me and I'll struggle to find anyone who'll ever compare to her...I don't know what to do.[moderator note: used poster's original question] Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Dr. John +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Don't feel bad, this is just one of the many facets of life.
Some may feel that they have had realativly few problems in life but most do.
In many cases they feel like they will never survive the situation. But they do.
You are still young and you will eventually look back on this and think; I guess that wasn't so bad after all.
It is kind of like breaking a leg or an arm. It hurts so bad when it happens. But as the incident drifts farther into the past it gets easier to talk and even laugh about.
So hang in there. The situation will improve in any case.
Doc
A
reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): if you go out and meet some nice women then you will eventually get over her but remember these things do take time and even tho it will be hard you will get there in the end
...............................
A
female
reader, PsyCookie +, writes (13 July 2008):
 You're not pathetic at all. This is just life and life sometimes sucks big time. I'm sorry your friend didn't return your feelings and feeling rejected by someone whom you strongly feel something is terrible.
Now, you may just ask what to do to get over her. Well, just try to keep yourself occupied. Try to take interest in a hobby. Also another thing is you could try to hang more with other of your friends. When you're with them and if they know her, try not to bring her up for conversation. A good thing to do is to take a trip to someplace, like a mountain, the beach, or camping. A walk to a nearby park everyday is a good excersise and will make you get reflect your thoughts.
Now, if you do find a girl who interests you, neve EVER dare compare her to this girl. If you do this it will surely ruin the relationship and you would lose a shot on being happy. Instead, try to appreciate the relationship with the girl when you get one and try to stay happy with her.
Lastly, be happy for your friend. It will hurt seeing her with another guy and even more if you see her happy, but you doing this will show her you're a great friend and will want to be your friend like she was before.
Try to do what I told you before, or whatever the other aunties tell you. If possible, try everything they suggest here.
Good luck
...............................
|
