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writes:I have general questions for women. How often do women think of their past sexual partners? I'm curious because my girlfriend seems to bring up(in converstaion) people she has slept with at random moments. Reply to this Question
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reader, NuttyGooner  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 When writing posts on here, I draw from my past partners - outside of here, I'm all my bf's... however, when he brings up his ex, or the "first love of his life" - THEN I talk about my ex!The conversation changes quick enough!
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reader, maruechant  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 Honestly, I have no enough knowledge on this but as a female who finds your question quite interesting, here's my opinion about it:
How often do we think about our past relationships? Well, as long as we want to talk about them because we are through with the past relationship+guy reflecting that we are moving forward from behind or moved on completely. If we cannot share our stories of the past confidently, there is something in us which holds us back, maybe we find the sharing unhealthy because the past brings back hurting memories.
I can sense that such conversation of hers does not mean anything to her anymore. She can say this to you because she knows you understand and will listen to a supersensitive topic of her personal life. Isnt it great that your girl is being honest of her past? You may find this kind of story annoying sometimes but it is better to hear the truth than lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): Whats happened in the past stays in the past!!
There's no point in dragging up ancient history if its got nothing to do with my current situation...
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (9 March 2007):
 I`m not trying to put your mind at rest, but when you say your girlfriend seems to bring up (in conversation) people she has slept with at random moments; that`s all it is!! She hasn`t called out your name at intimate moments, and when she mentions her past guys, it`s only in relation to something she was saying; "We had a lovely time on the beach/ Peter enjoyed the movie but I didn`t/ I love cats but Paul is allergic to them" Etc, Etc. Because she`s spent time with other guys, their name is bound to crop up, at random, from time to time. I doubt very much that she thinks of them now very often in a sexual way. Kind Regards, Heather.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): Good answer, angeloflove. I too focus my attentions on my current partner and neither of us discuss past sexual partners. Talking about and thinking of past sexual partners is a waste of time and takes a lot away from the present happiness of one's relationship.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I never compare past experiences or men but only think about the present one.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 March 2007):
 In my experience people tend to talk about their exes when theyre nervous or need reassurance. I think about my exes very occassionally and even less when I'm with someone so I would say try to tolerate it a bit or do what I do when my ex wouldn't stop talking about his exes and say something like "Wow, sounds like you have a lot of girls in your past" It usually shuts them up mega quick.
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reader, JnikkiM +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I don't really bring up random men when I talk to my man unless he's talking about his. I think about them but truefully I just don't feel like it's a good idea to talk about past sexual experiences with your man. A women should always make her man feel like he's number one and no one is better.
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