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writes: Hi guys,I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself but I'm wondering how many young ladies out there are having a hard time finding a boyfriend? I am 20 this year and have never had a boyfriend, I feel like I'm a really slow developer. Every single guy I like, sees me as a friend or.... has a girlfriend. Don't u just hate it when you are really into a guy and just in passing they mention that their girlfriend said this, or did that and you quickly realise that they are not available and you been blindly thinking that you and he both felt some kind of spark. What can I say, I'm a tad bitter at the moment. Is anyone else feeling like this? Thanks everyone Xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): Hello,
Original poster here, I just wanted to say that I really appreciate all of your responses. Sometimes when you're feeling down you just need some kind words and advice to prop you up again. Also knowing that there are other people out there who feel the same as you makes you feel less isolated. I know what you mean 'strontiumdog' how are we meant to find anyone to date if they are already taken? It's like where the hell was I when everyone else was getting together? The most action I get is a grope in the club and that just isn't what I'm after, very similar to Captain Reynolds. I'm just going to focus on my studies and my friends for now. I also liked anon guys honesty in mentionally physical appearance; I have a good body IMHO but I don't feel pretty so I guess I need to learn to love myself first. Thanks again everyone I'm feeling more positive now :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): i am the same as you finding it impossible to find a boyfreind sick of meeting guys rejection me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): Hi, I'm not a lady but hopefully I can help a wee bit without being too offensive. The sad thing about us guys is we're very superficial. I have girl-friends who I absolutely love but would never ask out on a date because I'm just not attracted to them. Eventually that special someone will see you and fall in love with you, however if ur a fit, healthy looking girl you will greatly decrease the time it rakes for this to happen. If you are overweight start eating right and begin an exercise routine, if you don't find yourself attractive no one else will. A good book to help you is fit for life by Harvey diamond. Also lots of guys are too shy to talk to a girl they like, try initiating the conversation.
Once again guys are very superficial, appearance is everything. You sound like a wonderful girl but without a hot bod to create that initial interest you could be waiting a while. Once you have guys wanting to have sex with you, your personality is what will diferentiate you from just another one night stand. Best of luck!
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reader, CaptainReynolds  +, writes (8 March 2010):
I know your pain, I am fed up of going out hoping to meet someone and it never happens. The only people who seem to approach you in bars and clubs are drunk or very sleazy. Where are all the nice, normal ones? At the moment I am, and I would advise you to as well, focusing on myself, my career, and trying to be happy alone. There's no point in focusing on what you don't have. Enjoy your freedom at the moment, find a great new hobby, hit the gym, have fun with your friends. Hopefully, you'll meet someone special at some point in the future. All the best
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Hi, Im not a lady :-) but from a guys point of view its probably down to your personality, your probably too nice.
Your still young and love will happen for you, theres a boyfriend out there who will love and appreciate you for who you are and who will put you first.
Try going to more social events, clubs etc... or even try on-line dating (but use common sense).
It took me a lot of failed relationships and years to find my current girlfriend.
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 It is tough seeing everyone else with a hand to hold. Just remember during this time to stay true to your principles because it is easy to compromise to satisfy the moment.
At 32 if I were to go back 12 years to 20 I would be working on my own goals and bettering myself...people are attracted to you as a person. Confidence and self assurance scares away the wastes of time but attracts the good people.
All of these things will come when least expected. Just please do not compromise yourself for the small reward of a hand to hold.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (8 March 2010):
Try post a profile on http://www.connectingsingles.com.
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