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writes:I met a girl this summer, she lived right in my neighborhood. Immediately, we connected and hung out a couple of times. I admit I should've been more upfront with her with the fact that I was leaving out of state for grad school but I thought things would remain casual between us so I withheld that info. About 2 wks into hanging out, I realized that I really liked her and she shared the feelings. I told her that I was moving. She was very sad and I felt bad for not telling her sooner but we decided to see where it goes. She admitted to me she just got out of a four year relationship so I proceeded with caution myself but decided that I could sort of ease my way into her life till she gets over him. Stupid, I know. Anyway, fast forward to now, we basically went out from June to August till I left to another state and we did the LDR thing. Things were good at first, we called eachother everyday and texted a lot, webcammed, etc. But gradually, she stopped answering calls/stopped texting back and never really initiated anymore. She claimed that she was really stressed out with school and had a few breakdowns. I just gave her space. Until her major breakdown about 3 weeks ago where she basically told me to go f myself and "it's not working out" because I asked her for sexy pics after not speaking for a while (not very gentlemanly of me, I know). She then ignored my phone calls for about 2 weeks. I got through to her recently and she's willing to text but, again, same story. Doesn't answer phone calls, never initiates conversations. The conversations are really casual too and everytime she promises to call or answer my call, she ignores my phone calls.What's going on? I was worried sick those 2 weeks she ignored me. Could she just not be as into me anymore? We have literally not spoken on the phone for a month. I kept trying but I think her ex may be back in her life or something. Help!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 December 2013):
 It's over and done. She's not behaving very maturely and responsibly about it either.
she does not have the nerve to tell you it's over... possible there is a new guy local to her... and that's sad for you.
LDRs are very hard for everyone. I think they are nearly impossible with one or both partners away at school.
Best bet is to just let it go and let her go. I'm sorry.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 December 2013):
 She's not into the long term thing anymore. Instead of breaking it off she's just letting it die by itself. At the right place and at the right time your relationship could work but she is not going to hedge her bets in this unless some miracle force binds you together in the future. Graduate school takes a few years and after that there is no prediction of what you would do afterwards. Don't beat yourself up. Some people would rather do the silent treatment over breaking up. I myself find the silent treatment to be easier on the heart. I am sure you could be as lovely as before, and you put in the effort but LDRs are frustrating. Here again I see the words "space" in an LDR. There should be no more space obviously in an LDR. She just had her excuse and waiting for you to catch up on it.
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