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writes:I broke up with my girlfriend of 18 months about 3 weeks ago, and last week I met someone I really really like. People say you should wait a while to try and get over your ex but I feel like I am done with her - I dont think about her(excluding now), I only talk about her when someone asks about her and I have no attraction for her at all. Ive been out on quite a few dates and been with the majority of the girls in the last 3 weeksI really want to be with this girl I just met and I know she wants to be with me(i know it might sound strange). I just dont want to do anything that might be stupid and jeopardize this new thing(shes not a thing).Im would like to know how long I should wait to give my all to the new girl. The way im wording this sounds like im being disrespectful but really im not trying to be
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 Well you shouldnt listen to other people. It's about yourself honey, not them. They cant understand unless they are in your shoes.
I hope you have a happy relaionship, you deserve it x
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reader, MiAiRo +, writes (30 May 2011):
MiAiRo is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone.
We did agree that if it does go somewhere, we would take it slow. That was agreed the day before I posted the question. We cant take things too quickly anyway, as distance will be a problem until the end of June.
Its weird, this is the first time I've been given the opportunity for another relationship so soon after a break-up. I normally wait a few months before I'm ready to move on.
Thanks again. I needed to hear some support. Everyones been putting me down since they heard.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (30 May 2011):
 I think others may view it as very soon but if in your heart you are over your ex and probably were a long time ago? then there is no reason to go ahead with the new person in your life. If it feels right then yes! Make such to get to know each other better before getting serious though as its all fun in the chase as they say! Just enjoy getting to know each other and spending time together :) All the best!
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reader, EccentricOrbit +, writes (29 May 2011):
 You cannot set a time limit on the amount of time each individual should wait before they enter another relationship. Yes, you were with your ex-girlfriend for quite a long time but you have stated you're over her and so she isn't an issue (not meaning to sound disrespectful here, either).
The way I see it, you have two major possible options. You could either wait a few more weeks in which time you could get to know this girl more. Or, you could enter a relationship with her now. It's entirely your choice; I just don't think your ex should impede the possibility of this new relationship in any way.
You seem a very sweet guy and so I have no doubts that you'll jeopardize the relationship. Just be yourself.
All the luck and best wishes.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (29 May 2011):
You are so sweet :)Honey when you feel ready is when your ready. If YOU think you are ready to start a new relationship with this girl then go ahead, I would suggest however that you go slow, get to know each other adn take it from there.But remember it has to be YOU who is ready to move on. I'd say if you think your ready then go for it!!And dont worry, it didnt sound like you were disrespecting her.
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reader, lysha +, writes (29 May 2011):
 i think that if your over your ex then 3weeks is respectable, but get to know this girl for a couple of weeks before you get into a relationship, that way you will know more about eachother and wont be rushing anything :)
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