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writes:I'm getting really annoyed with my so-called boyfriend. I just can't reason with him anymore... even when I try to be fair and do things equally, it's still not good enough. For example, if we're arguing over which film to watch, I'll say "Okay, we'll watch your one this time and next time will be my choice" but then when that time comes, he doesn't give my film a chance. It's not just petty things like this, it's everything. He wants everything his own way and doesn't give a crap about my feelings or opinions. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): Being in a relationship should make you feel good, not bad. If his behaviour is making you unhappy now, when you are both young and (forgive my assuming) in the early stages of a relationship it will only become worse with time, if not tackled now.
Are you able to discuss his behaviour with him? If yes, how does he take it? Does he listen to reason? Does he ignore you? Does he become angry?
I sense you think him immature? Perhaps he's not ready to be in a mature relationship.
If talking to him makes no difference, then you could try asking yourself the following questions:
Does he make me feel valued?
Does he make me feel good about myself?
Am I happier than I was before I knew him?
Is our relationship based on a true sense of equality?
I wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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reader, LustyLisa  +, writes (8 March 2011):
Nothing! He's a selfish narcissist. Unless he's willing to be open to your wants, desires and needs on a 50-50 basis you've only got more of the same repeated behavior to expect from him. Unless you FORCEFULLY flex some authority, you are enabling/allowing him to treat you like this. Next time you should say, "we will watch my selection of choice" and if he doesn't like it, show him the door. Guys like this have probubly been coddled and pampered by their family and mothers and think that they are the only one that counts. Your only recourse is to show him that not only doesn't the sun and moon revolve around him and what he wants all of the time but neither do you!
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