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writes:How long should I stay mad?? My husband and I were out last night my husband went outside to check the car and when he came back reeked of pot, we are very religous and he could get in a lot of trouble! When I asked him he lied at first. How long should I stay mad to really make it clear? Should I stay the weekend with a friend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): If he has done it a third time goodness gracious seems like he's on the verge of getting addicted and needs serious help.Please take him to a counselor.weeds are easier to remove when they are small.once they are fully grown they are strong and difficult to uproot.Bad habits are similar to them.Professional help is a must here.TC dear.Let us know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthis is the third time he has been caught doing it! not the first, does that change anything?
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reader, bluntasaspoon  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 ok i know this sounds silly but staying mad at a bloke for a few days never works. they just see you as uptight, annoying and probably controlling. you have obviously had a major head fit at him and good on you for that. but seriously staying away for the weekend is a bit drastic. just write him a letter and explain that you didnt appreciate what he did and you would like it if he did not do it again. and when he agrees to this you will always have the letter as proof and if he does it again then stay at a mates for a few days coz he would have deserved it then.
everyone deserves a second chance
bluv bluntasaspoon x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): I am very religious as well.But getting mad at your husband or going to stay at your friend's house is not the solution to your problem.Getting mad or angry never really helped anyone or the situation.It will make everything worse.Instead talk to your husband calmly.Tell him he is your ideal guy(Flattery always works) and you are very much disappointed in him behaving this way.Explain to him that its against your religion and he's hurt god as well.Try telling things slowly.Read from your holy book passages citing wrath of god against people who do bad things.if it still doesn't work he need to seek help from a counselor religious or otherwise.My prayers are with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): leaving the house in my opinion isnt a good idea specially if your married. he made a decision and you should respect it even if you dont like it or hate what he did. i personaly am against all outside substances like that too. i think you should just tell him it really bothers you and it hurt you that he did that behind your back. being a guy n all i think that would make him think more about it and not do it again knowing it would hurt you rather then getting angry and just fueling the fire. it will be harder to stay calm it always is. but think bout how reaction will effect the near future. hope this helps.
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