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writes:Ok so my girlfriend and i met and became best friends in high school. Then we starting dating when she came out to her parents her mother really hated me becase "i turned her daughter gay" and because of a money issue but she delt with me the relationship lasted for one month short of a year. then we broke because while i was dealing with some mental issues(sueicidal depression). my girlfriend said she felt i didn't love her anymore. i'm better now and we are back together.( we have been back together for a few days) and she wants to keep us a secret. i can't even call her. so my two questions are should i deal with me her dirty little secret? and if so for how long?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 January 2011):
At some point, she will need to come clean about who she is, and about what you mean to her. She shouldn't really be keeping it a secret at all since you've already been a couple and you're now together again.
I think you need to explain that you can't live your life being a secret. Explain that at some point, she will need to come clean and you'd prefer it to be sooner than later. Tell her that you will give her all the support she needs, and that you will stand by her. But explain that you can't live your life as a secret.
I would set a time limit of three months. At that point, she should know where she's going with you.
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