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writes:If your spouse came to you and said they did not want to be married any longer, moved their stuff out of the house and began separation procedings. Months after the initial discussion, this same spouse tells you their feelings have grown platonic, they no longer want to have sex with you and wonder if they've been living a lie for many years. No indication has been given that this spouse is going through a "phase" or plans to re-unite, in fact most discussions thereafter include how things will be divided and that divorce paperwork is being completed. So here's my question; how long would you hold on to hope that things were going to work out between the two of you? How long do you wait until you simply agree to divorce this person and move on with your life? What is normal to most people who may still love that person, but simply wish to have a normal life again with or without them. A year?...Maybe two? I need to know what normal people do in these situations. I know everyone is different and everyone mourns the loss of a marriage but whatever you can tell me would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Im sorry about this.,if im on the situation i will give my self another half year to see the situation if there is still a positive chance to this relationship. but if i see that its just getting worst i think i have to learn how to let go with peace on it, maybe becoming and staying a good friend with each other will make more things better and maybe later with this friendship will give better relationship. I wish you good luck dear.. be strong ok..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): Please just move on with your life, work out, go out, call every friend and tell them you're single, when you are ready date other people, and above all, divorce him. He doesn't want to be married to you anymore, do not waste another day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): I'd think about the other partner too, when I am at a loss myself. If I don't know how long I want to wait, perhaps it is best to not wait any longer at all, if it makes the other miserable. If you still love the spouse, perhaps put yourself aside in this difficult time and focus on them, and what will make them happy. Then grieve afterwards.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 Yeah, we're here to help but if you can provide us some more information it would be helpful. Don't be afraid to be more descriptive, we're all anonymous here.
With the info you gave, I'd say it's over and it's time to move on. But with some additional details we might be able to tell you if counseling might be a possibility.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 March 2010):
 What country do you live in?
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