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writes:Curious..If the Dr. gives you the Big surprise that you're pregnant..how long do you wait to tell your boyfriend? Is there a right time? I don't want to freak him out until I'm 100% sure..?And the parents? Reply to this Question
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reader, natasia  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 Re: miscarrying in the first trimester, I agree with the aunt who said that it's actually better if people know you are pregnant, because then if something awful does happen, you have their support and understanding, and proper recognition of what has happened. I have a friend who went through this, and she said it made her feel so much better that her friends knew and helped her through it.
Anyhow, you REALLY shouldn't be thinking about things like that at a time like this!! As I said, the only way to think is 110% POSITIVE when you are pregnant!
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reader, natasia +, writes (7 April 2009):
Tell him when he's in a good mood, yes - that is good advice. And make it a priority to tell him as soon as it seems a good moment, because every minute you know and don't tell him is a minute he will look back on as you lying to him - truly, they don't like it if you don't tell them straight away!
What do you need to be 100% sure of, though? OK - what I think you're getting at is that thing about waiting until you've passed 12 weeks and then you know the pregnancy is totally established, because 1/3 of pregnancies are lost in the first 12 weeks. Well, to be honest, I think he should know you are pregnant - because you totally are - and whatever will happen will happen re: how the pregnancy goes. When you're pregnant you always feel a little bit nervous about is the baby ok, etc - that doesn't stop until you give birth and hold the baby in your arms! Personally I am not a believer in that 'don't tell anyone until 12 weeks' business. I think that the first 12 weeks are the hardest, as that's when most people have the strongest symptoms, and honestly you need people close to you to know what's going on.
I would of course tell him, and my parents, and his (up to him), straight away, pretty much. You have to think positive when you're pregnant : )
Congratulations!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): I am going to be honest. You should tell him right away. Most men will wonder why you did not tell him right away and start blaming you for cheating and that is why you didn't tell him because maybe you didn't know. You know men are. So tell him right away once you know for sure.
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reader, chazx +, writes (7 April 2009):
 Wait till you are gone 3 months to tell everyone apart fro m your partner, tell him now as soon as he is in a good mood.
Let him support you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 April 2009):
 The boyfriend should be told immediately but friends and family it's up to you. I usually made the annoucement in my third month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, I know some people wait to tell..in case you miscarry.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (7 April 2009):
 Hi Hunny
If the doctor has told you, you are pregnant and has maybe taken a test, Are you waiting for a test to come back for confirmation?
If so I would definatly tell my b/f what was going on he has a right to no hun, Hopefully he wont freak out to much and will be there to stand beside you when you do tell your family, It says your age is 26-29 you are an adult if this is your age so if the people that love you are understanding then dont fear to tell them..Worrying will only make you feel more nervous as time goes on hunny HOPE THIS HELPS WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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