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*Lindy87
writes:Okay Dear Cupid I need your help!I went on a date with this guy who previously blew me off, I let him know it was his second chance but he wasn't getting a third. Well I didn't expect the date to go that well being as he blew me off before and I wasn't sure if he deserved a second chance and that I knew I was coming off as naive. I'm not naive...I just believe in second chances, plus I had liked the guy before so I was sure I'd like him in person again. Btw, we never did anything sexual, just made out.So I get to his town and meet him at his work, he was just getting off. I met one of his best friends and we stayed talking to that friend for awhile, they were there to take over the next shift. We then went back to his place and played guitar hero and made a pizza. We had a few drinks, but not enough for either of us to be drunk. He introduced me to this card game that his friends and him play and asked me if I wanted to play with them the next day. Being as the date was going well so far, I agreed. Him and I then had this heart to heart and we talked about a lot, I really felt like I got to know him so much better. So he lives an hour away from me so I stayed over being as I wasn't going to drive up again to hang out with him and his friends the very next day. We watched a movie, cuddled and made out a bit, cuddling ourselves asleep the rest of the night. The next morning we cuddled until noon, went out to lunch and then went to his friend's place. His friends were REALLY welcoming, sometimes referring to me as his girlfriend and then telling him that they all love me and want to keep me around, so he better make it official. It was pretty awkward actually, being as I just met these people and usually people know better then to make those comments in front of the people who are only on their second date...but it didn't freak me out too much, really. well we hung out with his friends for until late that night, before I drove home he gave me a goodbye kiss and I left. Nothing was mentioned of hanging out again.So... the only times we've conversated since then have been through texts on my initiation of it. It was like that before though, so its not anything different. He's not really blowing me off since we do still talk, but nothing is mentioned of seeing each other again. During that heart to heart he seemed very sincere about wanting to date me, he didn't even try doing anything sexual with me and told me he wants to get to know me more before anything official happens. I just have this paranoia that he is going to blow me off again, this guy is great in person, respectful, generous, fun, gorgeous, great personality but its different when we are not around each other. He has this sense of confidence I don't see in a lot of other guys and I really like it. I am wondering how I should handle this situation now, because I don't want us to fizzle out and I don't want to seem needy either, but I'd like to see him again. I would like him to tell me that, for I already said I had a good time with him. How long do I wait? Or should I let him know I'd like to see him again? please let me know.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (24 November 2010):
LLindy87 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice, tbntuck :) I did text him and he did want to hang out again, we did hang out again and we had a great time. I'm seeing him again this sunday too!
Pretty sure I'm close to a real decent relationship and with a great guy :)
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reader, tdntuck +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I suggest you don't wait. Text (since that's your usual communication) him an invitation to meet up for coffee or drinks. If he accepts, use that meeting as your opportunity to show him how desirable you are, be yourself, focus on him and his interests. Make it clear, through flirting, your interest in him. Keep it light hearted, positive and fun. The ball will continue rolling if he's interested.
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