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writes:Ok, so ive known this girl for 3 years, and ive really been into her the whole time. However after I had known her for a couple months she moved to California, and came back this year. We began talking alot, and i asked her to Prom. We went to it, and had an amazing time. We got together that night, and everything seemed to be going great. However, the next day she texted me and told me she wasnt ready for a boyfriend yet "at all" but that she REALLY liked me and had a really good time at prom. She said that maybe we could get together in the future, and that if she were to date anyone, it would be me. She said that she just needed to fix some things and get over some stuff. She had told me before that about 2 months ago she had gotten out of a relationship where the guy had cheated on her 3 times, but they are still friends, but nothing more. I really like her, and it seems like she really likes me. My question is what should I do, and how long should i wait? I know im still young, but i really like this girl.
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reader, garcypher  +, writes (18 May 2009):
If I was you I wouldn't wait. Because you might be dissapointed in the end when she hooks up with someone else. Life is too short to hang around on the hope she might change her mind. You dont know what the outcome will be in the end. Just go on with your life as normal, if you meet someone then thats what happens. And if you dont and and you are meant to be with her then good. But dont be eating yourself up over what might be. Have a life.
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reader, RichardJames +, writes (18 May 2009):
 I just got out of this situation. The best thing to do is be patient. Give her the space she needs. If she is sincere with what she says. Some people grive longer and she probably feels it not to be fair to you because she still has some feelings for her ex. YOu should be supportive, be open to talk to her as a friend no matter the subject matter. Completely remove yourself from the equation and just give her unbiased help. Pressuring people scares people away. I believe in waiting forever if the person is worth it. Dont completely turn down every opportunity but dont go looking for someone else. Pull back some of your emotions for her and try to be a little hard to get. Make her want you. But use little ways to show her that you fancy her. Nothing over the top. Just hints to rest in her mind at night. Good luck brother .
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