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writes:We want a bit more sparkle in are realationship, but dont want to have sex yet or my girlfreind doesnt want a lickout or doesnt want to give a blojob. We are both 15. We've been goin for 15months.I respect her alot and ive sugested sex but she seems to want to stay at what were doing but a little more excitment and plesure would just do somthing good for are relationship in my opinion.
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reader, Tomas  +, writes (10 February 2009):
If she is comfortable with it, you can ask her to take your hand and show you how she likes to be touched. This way you can learn, she isn't pressured to respond to something that isn't right for her, and you give her tacit permission to take control. Be aware that the clitoris (tip) is very sensitive (like the tip of your penis), and if she gets overstimulated she may want you to back off. That's okay. The shaft/hood is more rugged, like the rest of your penis. Also if she is dry, any penetration can feel unpleasant (taking a lot of time cuddling, kissing, gentle touching can make a woman get naturally moist; how much can also depend on stress, age or just genetics). Not so sure if manual clitoral stimulation is particularly better wet (ladies?).And especially if she doesn't masturbate (and thus know her body and what works or doesn't for her), she may just want to be touched for a while and at some point say that's enough. *Don't* don't don't make that some kind of pride thing, and suddenly make her feel like she owes you an orgasm to prove your manhood. For guys, getting aroused and then stopping is crazy frustrating. It is like that for some women, too, but not usually as quickly and not all the time. They will generally let you know when they need it to continue (usually something like "O. M. G. Keep. Doing. That. Don't. Stop."). Be emotionally prepared to just play around, make her feel good, and give her a chance to chase an orgasm if she wants, without feeling any pressure or expectation from you. And if she ends up going there with you, it'll be a happy surprise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): hi ya, well sex is only really enjoyable when your both ready!! there is no hurry and the more you get to know each other the more natural it become. you will get to a point where it just happens with out to much priar arrangment, but be prepared so there isnt any mishaps like pregnacy.its fun a kinda nice just to play for a while, maybe kiss and touch over clothing if she is ok with it, and if you go further and become more intimate always think about her and not solely your own pleasure, have fun find out what she likes...It will happen if you dont push her, just relax and enjoy your time together...hope this helps
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reader, aman +, writes (10 February 2009):
It vastly depends on the girl. Some girls may never orgasm from you fingering them, while others may orgasm very quickly. Listen and watch her as you do it and use her reactions to know what she likes best. If she isn't giving you clues, ask her what feels good. Try to rub her clitoris while fingering her, as doing both at the same time offers the best stimulation.
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