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writes:Dear Aunts and Uncles,I need to seek your advice. I know my issue is not about relationships but this is about my children.I am from the Philippines and I work abroad for the last 4 yrs but for the past 2 yrs, my children and I are suffering from the emotional abuse of my husband.He seem to use my children to get financial support from me, he doesn't help me financially for our children and if he runs out of budget/ misuse the budget he lash it out to my children and sometimes would not even bring food on the table. He will use the children for me to send money again and I would say I am living beyond my means now.I tried other possible options by sending it to my family but my daughter is the one's suffering for my husband controls her emotionally. She does the errand when it comes to financial matters and my husband will just sit and wait and take the money from her for the weekly budget.I don't know any longer what to decide between work and children. I know my children need me as they ask me always to be home and take care of them but considering the situation back home and the slow progress of our city, I will not have financial stability and my income probably if I will work there will be like a hand to mouth basis. I am the only provider in the family and I need to think too of their education and prepare for it. But how can I have both ways without risking my children's welfare. They say to look for a guardian but that will a bit complicated for my husband will make trouble if I keep my children away from him. If I will fight for my rights in court it will be a long process and my job will be at risk too.Please help me, what is the right decision to make? I am so divided between work and children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): Do you have anyone who can help you? Can you stay with parents or friends? Try to find a way to live with your children and leave your husband. I wouldnt advise you to keep them from seeing him, only from him having them living with him and away from you. The finacial burden for your family should not have been your sole responsibility...you are being taken for a ride in my honest opinion. mal
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