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writes:Ladies do you think its important for a man to be physically attractive in a relationship (marriage for an example)?I know there are other more important factors, but don't you think its a least important for the man to be physically fit and attractive?If you do agree please explain whyThanks Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 It is important. Luckily though beauty is in the eye of the beholder ,so being attractive does not mean you have to be just like Brad Pitt . It means that your partner must consider you attractive,according to her personal preferences and tastes.
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reader, swordandredrose  +, writes (20 May 2010):
No, appearance is not important at all. It's the man's values and behaviors that attract women.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (26 April 2010):
 Personally, a man I'm in a relationship needs to be very attractive... to me. He doesn't need to be the hottest man in the world, but if I'm not attracted to him then what's the point in me being with him?
So, looks are important. Also, I'd prefer it if a man took care of himself and wasn't completely unfit and lazy. But he doesn't need to be an athlete. Just... normal and healthy. I actually like men with a bit of chubbyness, and you can be chubby or slightly overweight and still be healthy.
I mainly feel this way because I consider myself normal and at least moderately fit (health wise), and I'd prefer it if my partner was the same as me, roughly.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (26 April 2010):
 Well I think it is important to be attracted to the man you are in a relationship with i.e. you find his appearance appealing - but everyone's idea of what is and is not attractive differs, so for one girl it might be a huge, muscular type man and for another girl she might only fancy tall, slim men. So yes physical attraction is important but everyone has their own "type" so to speak so there is no point in trying to conform to one ideal body shape in particular.
Without physical attraction you would be missing out on the physical side of a relationship, so sex would not be so enjoyable and you would be missing the physical intimacy side of things. So of course it is important - you cannot have a strong, happy relationship without physical attraction. But it is just one of many things that add up to a great relationship - having a purely physical relationship will never make you happy and it will never evolve into a long term relationship if all you have is a strong attraction to each other's appearance.
In terms of fitness - again this is a personal choice and to me as long as my man is healthy then I do not mind. My boyfriend who I've been with nearly 8 months is a little overweight but he does exercise and he is very healthy, so I think that is fine. Being fit is good, for the obvious health reasons and it does mean the man will tend to have a good body. But a man who is obsessive about working out, and wont enjoy food and wine with you - now that is much worse than not being fit at all!
I think physical attraction has a major part to play when you first meet someone, it adds to that "spark" you have with someone. If you dont find them attractive right from the start then you have a major battle on your hands to get a relationship going, because you need to "fancy" someone to really want to get to know them better and spend more time with them. If you meet a person who you get on with but feel no attraction for, well then that is just a friendship rather than the potential for a relationship.
I hope this helps!
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