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writes: Im 15 and have a super huge problem with the whole tampon thing. I never knew how bad they hurt; so i just let my mom put it in and dear lord it hurt like hell. I went and threw up because I was so shocked and scared. I couldnt get it out and started freaking out, so my sister yanked it out because I didnt have the power or guts to. Using pads is a huge nuisance in my life, as I cant go in the water and frequently am worried whether i leaked or not..But I just cant get the tampon in. I know where to put it in, but it just wont go; I dont have the might. I dont want my mom doing it either because last time she put it in wrong because I could feel it. I can live without tampons I suppose, but Im really worried about sex. How, if I cant even get a tampon in, am I supposed to have sex? Thankfully, I intend on waiting until marriage. Im proper afraid of sex and tampons and inserting any kind of anything into me. Also, I intend on having a C-section when I have a baby because I couldnt deal with the pain. I just wanted to know if this is a legitamite fear or phobia? Everytime I try to resolve I cringe and cry and just tell myself to forget about it. Have any of you ever experienced anything like this?
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reader, cutie_ciara143  +, writes (19 December 2012):
I learned how to put in my own tampon! If u just relax and breath, you will find it easier. Also, some people (my friends) find it easier to put one leg up on the toilet seat, opening your hole more. Another thing that helps is if u finger urself right before u insert the tampon, that will help it go in easier :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): I found it hard to use tampons at first and I decided agaist them until i started going swimming regularly with my friends and developed a soft spot for thongs.I found that using an applicator tampon was much easier (and cleaner!) Maybe you should this a go, it helps angle it properly too. If not you could try putting a little vasilene on the end of the tampon so it slide in more easily. The fear and tension you are experiencing may be causing your vagina to dry a little.Good luck and don't worry, sex is soooooooooooooo crazily different. You body will naturally do things without you even realising which will allow a penis inside you (although lubricant is advisable to begin with)Hope that helps, Rosie
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): I can't do it either i am to scared, all my friends do it and i know that one learned on her own to do it byherself. i hate wearing pads but i have nuthing else to do i am afraid that i will put it in worng, is there a certain way i should out it in and if i don't put it in right will it hurt
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Using a tampon takes practise. I couldn't use one until after I had had sex.
Having something "put down there" is quite a shocking thing to do and it does take some getting used to. I would suggest not using a tampon until you feel totally comfortable in doing so. I would also say the same thing about sex.
One thing with tampons- the more you tense up the more they hurt so try and relax a little bit. I know that is easier said then done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): Hi, i'm 16 and I can't use tampons either, i tried once and nearly fainted it hurt so bad.
But i've been fingered and it didn't hurt, because when you're sexually aroused your vagina lubricates itself and is able to make room for a penis.
I haven't had sex yet, I'm aware it will hurt, but trust me, if you're relaxed and wet, it should be bearable. I know how you feel, I have a huge aversion to pain, really little things hurt me, and the thought of childbirth fills me with dread, but the fact you can't use tampons does not mean sex will be unbearable. After you lose your virginity, and your hymen breaks, you may find you will be able to use them.
Just try to relax, if you still can't do it, you may just have to put up with pads. Good luck!
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reader, Dr. Nikki +, writes (17 July 2007):
 your problem is firstly because your tense and secondly (if you are) because your a virgin. i tried to insert tampons when i was a virgin and trust me i was in tears and walked funny so i had to take them out. when you have sex (am sure you know this) but your hymen breaks which makes it easier for you to insert a tampon. when you do do this again, relax, the more you relax the easier it will be for you to use 1. trust me it doesnt hurt wen u take it out yourself. i hope this helps
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reader, penta  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 It hurt the first time I put a tampon in too. This will have NOTHING to do with whether sex will hurt, or whether having a baby will hurt.
My first time at sex didn't hurt. It was uncomfortable and nothing to phone home about (no skyrockets) but it didn't hurt. And I had 2 babies vaginally with no drugs, using hypnosis instead. (The drama you see on TV about childbirth is for ratings, not for reality.) You'll do fine, just relax.
You're probably not inserting the tampon or removing it at the correct angle. First, when you're not on your period, try putting your finger in first to see what the angle should be. Wait until you ARE on your period to insert a tampon. (Don't try this when you're not on your period; you need the fluid for lubrication.) When you pull it out, as you're sitting on the pot, pull the string horizontally, not straight down. Good Luck.
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