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writes:Just a quick question. How hard do you find it to say NO. This is just a general question. I have always been a yes man. And find it very very hard to say No. But just lately i have tried it and now people seem to think i am just being awkward.I just cannot win can i?? Reply to this Question
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reader, loveistheanswer  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 well, when you say no try having a valid sounding excuse why, like having other previous obligations... it takes practice to say no, and it will take a while for them to get used to you not being a doormat anymore...eventually you'll be eloquent at "no" and they will get the picture and get used to the new pace at which you say "yes"... we should all say yes SOME of the time, but not so often that it overwhelms us...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): In my personal life i've gotten better at saying "no". I don't mean sex but just with friends asking me to do things for them etc...
In my work life, i sometimes have to just suck it up and do what i'm told even though in my head i'm thinking my co worker is a d**k. I do stick up for myself more at work then i used to and have realised when they are just taking the piss and asking too much of me.
I think it's nice to have a healthy balance. By all means stick up for yourself but sometimes you have to keep the peace.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 December 2010):
 Now if you say "no" to your boss then that poses a problem and your job in jeopardy. But if you're saying "no" to those who make you out to be the "go to" girl or treat you like an intern then you're just standing up for yourself. Personally, unless they're my boss, superior, supervisor.. then I don't care how much seniority they have, they're not the ones signing my pay check and I don't report to my equals. Just the higher up(s).
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): As in when people ask you to do something at work. I have always been the scapegoat for others. And now i am saying no, they think i am having an attitude problem!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 December 2010):
 I have never found it that difficult becasue if the person won't take no for an answer when I know they are pressuring me than I don't want them in my life.
Like it was said though, could you provide some sort of example here?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 December 2010):
No to what? As in "no" I'm not having sex with this man? No, I'm not interested? Be more specific.
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