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writes:So me and my gal broke up, my decision due to differences in life styles and goals. We still remained friends tho. So we went to a party last night and i got drunk and she got drunk and we ended up back at my room and had sex. Now this morning when we woke up we were both upset it happened and then she told me that she actually kind of liked it and liked that i was just her friend, she said she found it really hot that she was sleeping with her friend. She said that she thinks that we can enjoy this more if we have no strings attached and that if either of us meet someone else all we have to do is tell the other and we will stop. I dont really know what think. I guess i see what she is saying and partially agree and it defiantly was much better sex because there was no strings. I guess im just asking what you guys think about this.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 December 2010):
 http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/joystick-joyride-sex-position
Cosmo magazine for women is the BEST guide book when it comes to sex positions. Browse around on that link. Also if you have any book stores in your area, they have a tiny little section pertaining to sex. Guidebooks for positions, really great pictures and step by step guides. Don't be afraid to get one. Most definitely DO NOT buy any sex gadgets on Ebay. If you want to purchase some toys online I recommend
http://pureromance.com/
these ladies are professional sales consultants that can help you with your purchase (kinda like an Avon Lady) if you find one in your area. Or you can also shop online.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe is really shy about sexual things. she has become much more open to sex, but not trying new things. It took me a year or dropping hints and finally telling her it was pissing me off that i had to be on top every time for her to try doggie and on top. as for a sex shop, i dont know if she would go with me. I bout her this little 2 inch vibrator to use once, and she didnt even try it untill after we broke up and i had to be the one to use it on her. She says I can get her/ us whatever I want for us or her to use, but i have to buy it and she "might try it" (99% chance of a no). She wont even go by the condoms. I have had to go get them and pay for them every time and if i dont have any then we just dont have sex, ill figure her or go down on her till she goes but then nothing else.. I dont mind but sometimes it a bit frustrating that she is so against putting the effort into sex. I am looking at one of the sex position wedges to make some of the positions less awkward feeling and to help me get to her cus our height is drastically different so i always have a hard time getting in comfortably no matter what position. Any thing specific i can look at getting of ebay or something cus there isnt a sex shop for about 75 miles any direction where i am. or any positions or anything to try?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 December 2010):
Best advice on that is to take a trip together to your local sex shop. Don't be shy, actually shop and ask the salesperson for product recommendations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell we have had casual sex a few more time and it seems as tho she is bringing no emotion into the bed and I know that im not. i also know that she isnt trying to get back with me and is just there for a good time cus she had a little too much wine the other night and told me that she thinks it was jerky of me to break up with and that she has no desire to get back with me. So imm guessing that a sure sign that she just wants a FWB. I guess im ok with that too as long as she doesnt try to spend every waking moment with me like we did when we were dating
On a side note. Any suggestions on how to spice up the sex a bit
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): If you both agree to it being casual then fine but if either of you start to want something more you should stop.
The thing is, what happens if one of you finds someone else and you resent them for it? It might sound fun now but these FWB things usually end up hurting someone.
Some people can do the casual sex thing, i've never understood that myself. Just think hard about it because these things can get complicated.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 December 2010):
If you still have feelings for her, then NO don't engage in FWBs..because your feelings will end up getting hurt. However, if you can agree to no emotion and you get your kicks in the process, no one's getting hurt then I say proceed. Keep it as casual sex, nothing more.
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