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writes:I am feeling a bit embarrassed about something I did last night and would really like to know the opinions of some of you wise strangers. I have been dating a man for about 3 months now. I had told him up front that I did not want to rush into a sexual relationship and he said fine, he'd rather wait until I was ready. So, last night I let him know I was ready! There was passionate kissing which we had done many times before which led into the bedroom where we undressed each other while still standing up. Just the sight of his naked body reved my desire even higher. We laid on the bed, and although the 1st time with someone new is something I would normally want to take a long time in the "build-up" stage, I just could not bear to wait that long, and I actually told him so. What I said was "I really want to spend lots of time exploring your body--but not this time. I want it all right now." Of course he seemed happy to comply and I have to say it was fabulous. He left afterwords to go to work so it's been about 8 hours he's been gone and he hasn't called me. Normally that wouldn't worry me, but after what I said and did last night I am of course wondering if he thinks i am a major tramp or something. My question is, how does a man feel if a woman he's with for the 1st time basically tells him she's out of her mind with desire for him that she wants satisfied without further delay? I am feeling a little sluttish and paranoid, especially since things have been great between us for 3 months now. Thanks for any fedback...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): It just sounds to me like you planned this out too much and that's why you're questioning it. Like that line that you said to him sounds a bit thought out. Am I wrong? But don't fret, I have done stuff like that before. But the best way to go about things is not plan too much and just say what is on your mind at the moment, rather than thinking beforehand, say the night before, what you are going to say if the situation happens. Cause then you end up saying something that you planned to say that just didn't quite match or go with the situation. See what I am saying?But don't worry about it. So now you know better. But just be proud and confident, girl. Don't regret something so silly like that. No regrets and act PROUD with no regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): I am the original poster and want to say thank you all who replied -- you all made me feel so much better. And to top it off, the BF called me shortly after the posts, and when he didn't reach me right away he started emailing me. Turns out, he WAS very surprised last night (stunned is the word he used) but in a good way. He never expected it but said he was damn glad it happened the way it did. Now he says he owes me the long leisurely roll I would normally expect. You aunties are the best!!!! Thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Why feel embarassed about wanting a man sexually, I am sure he was deeply flattered, and he may just be taking some space because he now feels vulnerable after being intimate with you, don't apologize, don't explain, just continue to be honest with each other and go with the flow..You know best the relationship, you waited 3 months hopefully your bond of friendship had deepened to the point that you wanted to take it to the next level...just don't make the mistake of believing you have an instant relationship, or that he and you are in a commited relationship, never assume anything....let him bring up that talk with you, otherwise he will see it as pressure...just be your normal fabulous self.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Here! Here.
Phil is absolutly right, you have done nothing slutty at all. Just a bit saucy. Which I think most men would love.
You go Girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): If I'd been controlling myself for the last 3 months and my woman gave the go ahead like you did, I'd be delighted, and that's an understatement! It's hardly sluttish after 3 months delay. He'll be calling you soon enough for a repeat performance, of that I have little doubt. You asked for it, he gave it to you and it was great. What could be more perfect?
The ideal woman's attributes: Cook in the kitchen, hostess in the lounge and whore in the bedroom.
Phil
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reader, emad khan  +, writes (11 January 2008):
i think you fullfilled his deepest desire right there. If I'm not mistaken, he'll call you soon, maybe before you read this! If you've been together 3 months, and feel secure enough to be that candid with him about your desires...I think things are OK. So relax...
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reader, BadVoice  +, writes (11 January 2008):
Don't fret too much over this yet! It's only been a couple of hours. Myself....personally I wouldn't have mind. I just don't have the patience....3 days is the longest I would have waited. Good luck to you....I hope this works out fine for you
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reader, Landie  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 There's nothing wrong with it. Just wait till he gets off work and call him. Its the only way you will get an answer. If he thinks its strange that you wanted him so bad the best thing to do would be explain the whole thing to him.
good luck
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