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writes:Well... I have a boyfriend and we have only slept together twice since we got together a month ago but at the moment I'm late and thinking I may be pregnant. I know its sounds silly worrying now before I have even done a test, but how do you tell your guy your pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Take the test...whats the point in worrying him for nothing? If it's negative I wouldn't say anything except maybe talk about how to prevent it. If its positive, you've both made an adult decision and he needs to be made a part of the choices you make as the baby is half his even though he isn't carrying it. I suggest making up you mind about how you feel about abortion before you talk to him so that you don't get pressured into it and regret it if you wouldn't have chosen that for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): don't worry. you might be late because of stress.one time i thought i was pregnant because i was nearly a week late. because of this, i was totally stressed.well, my bff and i went to the drugstore and bought a test.we went back to her place, i took it, and it was negative. the stress stopped, and my period started literally hours later.
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reader, irishsassy  +, writes (3 April 2007):
Hi..First of all you need to get a test done to make sure you are pregnant and that you actually have something to worry about. I am with my BF 4 months and am 2 months pregnant. The day i done my test i took it out that night and handed it to him. At first he didn't say anything but then we talked. then we argued cause he wanted me to have an abortion i told him that was OUT OF THE QUESTION. Yesterday we went for our first scan and his heart melted when he saw his baby. Don't be nervous,just be straight with him and tell him up front. The longer you leave it the harder it will be. I hope it all works out for you. Please let me know how you get on!
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reader, irishsassy +, writes (3 April 2007):
Hi..First of all you need to get a test done to make sure you are pregnant and that you actually have something to worry about. I am with my BF 4 months and am 2 months pregnant. The day i done my test i took it out that night and handed it to him. At first he didn't say anything but then we talked. then we argued cause he wanted me to have an abortion i told him that was OUT OF THE QUESTION
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): im goin thro the same thing i have no clue what to tell him its happend to us b4 but i told him then i never took a test and i had had a 2 day period.. i called the doctor and he said i could still possibly be pregnant however i havent told him this yet i was suppose to get a test today but got side tracked ive hinted around all the symptoms ive been having and he calls me crazy.. sometimes i feel like i cant tell him until i kno for sure because i dont want him to freak as bad as i am now
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reader, livi +, writes (24 March 2007):
 hey,
well first be certian, take a test and then take another one to be certain!
If you are pregant then you need to tell him in a situation where it is just you and him, its not the sort of thing you yell out in a pub!
Tell him you love him, and that you understand this may be difficult news to take it.
Reasure him that it will all be ok becoz you love him and thats all that matters.
See him reaction and hope for the best ! Xx
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reader, jennyfer +, writes (23 March 2007):
You need to be honest with him- This is a big deal for both of you.
If you'd feel better making certain before you tell him, find out now. You can get tests that work up to 5 days before your period is due.
If you think he's likely to be supportive you might feel better to mention your concerns now and take the test together.
When you do tell him, sit down and just be upfront with him. He deserves to know as this very much involves him. Let him discuss his thoughts as well as yours- the guy often gets disregarded in this. Remember it took two of you to get into this situation, so both of you need to deal with this together.
If you tell him and he runs a mile, you're better off without him.
Just be calm,tell him you're worried and need his support to get through this. If you are pregnant, you are going to have some hard choices to make. Make them together and the relationship could be much stronger at the end of the day. If one or both of you are unwilling to work together, you have problems.
Good luck, I hope this turns out well for you. Try not to worry too much about it-whatever happens, it may be hard but it won't be the end of the world
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reader, perkypanda  +, writes (22 March 2007):
I has a scare not too long ago and I wasn't sure if I should tell him I'm concerned or if I should wait til I was sure. What if I get him worried over nothing if I just tell him I might be pregnant, but is it right to drop a bomb like that when its a sure thing?
I would suggest warning him and maybe buying the test together. The fact it isn't 100% might make it less scary for him. I know most guys will assume everything will be fine until they have evidence of the contary.
Plus, it isn't right the girl should be worried and having to find out all alone. They were there for the making of it, so it isn't your fault if you are pregnant, he should be a part of the process.
I hope it works out.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Go to the drug store and get a test and buy some condoms while you are at it. Make an appointment with your doctor and get some birth control. Don't have unprotected sex in the future. Babies deserve to be planned.
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Im going through this right now. I know your probably really scared cos i am sh*ting myself at the moment.
The way i told my b/f was my boobs are a little bigger and im late so i goes what if my boobs are bigger because im pregnant. Tbh i did it through text so it wasnt too hard.
Ive been with him nearly 3 months and he has been quite supportive. He has promised not to leave me no matter what and he says if i dont come on by sunday he going to get me a test to see. Were not sure what were going to do if i am but atm were trying not to think about it and get on with life.
But telling him wasnt too bad, just quick and easy. and then when i cried last night he knew exactly why and could hug me and tell me it would all be fine so i wasnt going through it on my own.
xxx
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reader, mum2be +, writes (22 March 2007):
How you tell him really depends on how you think he will react... If you think he will blow his head, then talking to him, perhaps in front of a trusted friend is a good idea.
If you think he will be supportive, then you could tell him by showing him the test, or, if you plan to keep it, you could buy a babygrow or something and leave it somewhere he will see it. You are still young, so i can sympathise with your panicking!, however, you do need to find out for sure, and make sure that you are supported when you do find out. Perhaps telling your parents first would be a wise idea.
I hope it works out for you, and tell us what happens!
all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): Well this is a very common problem, Firstly the main thing is to calm down as worry can make your period even later. Think about how you feel about it yourself, would you be happy about being pregnant or would you be devestated. But really you cant do anything until you take a test. If you cant tell your boyfriend face to face or just dont know how to bring the subject up try just leaving the test about so he can find it and let him bring it up that way you can talk about it what ever the result!!!!
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reader, electra +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Hey there :o)
Well sweetie no i don't think your silly at all, i can completely understand that cause Ur late your already at the panicking stage :o) but sweetie its not as bad as all that, once u sit down with him an share the load that's on your mind I'm sure he'll support you all the way, having a baby can be the happiest best part of your life, but if its not what your both ready for then that's another avenue and choice an decisions have to be talked about together, i doubt it would ever come to that. you may even not be pregnant you may just be late cause Ur worrying so much about telling him and being pregnant :0) stress or worry can also lead to your periods being late........ so the key here sweet is stop fretting relax what will be will be OK, but just a little piece of advice babe if your having unprotected sex with this guy and your not ready for kids, then you should really be using some form of protection, then your able to enjoy sex without stressing about unplanned pregnancy
i hope my advice has been able to help you a little,please write back let me know how you get on if you ever need a friend or a shoulder to cry on come and find me here i'm always here for you ok :o)
Take Care x
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reader, Midge +, writes (22 March 2007):
 This exact same thing happened to me and my boyfriend. We had been in a relationship for about 3 months, only slept together maybe 3 or 4 times at most. I was a week late and I told him this. Obviously the both of us were panicing, thinking that I was pregnant. (Major panicing by the way!)
Well he was extremely supportive and said that if I was, he would be there for me and we would raise the child together. I did a test and it came back negative, panic over.
You really need to get a test ASAP. Test yourself and if it is positive, tell him that you were late, did a test and it was positive. You should then get to your doctors and get it double checked by blood tests.
It wont be easy but the easiest way to tell him is being direct, but telling him how you feel too. You will need to have a serious discussion about things if the tests come back positive.
Sorry I couldnt be more help!
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