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writes:So... there was a girl I met once through mutual friends on a day out to a local town for site seeing, a spot of lunch etc...We spoke a fair bit, and quite liked her. I got in touch via email to ask her out, and had a to chase a little but managed to get her out for a coffee.We've been out a couple of times now; but I think I don't really like her so much now we've spoken a lot more... but I'm not sure how she thinks its going.How do you let someone down gentle when you were the one doing the chasing to start with? It would seem to harsh on her for only a couple weeks later to go from seemingly really being interested to not. Thing haven't really got serious enough for us to open up fully with eachother, and I guess if she is starting to warm to me I could break her heart...But then I guess its better now than later and just get it over with rather than draw anything out and accept while it may hurt her its the better option.Unless anyone has any better ideas?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2013): You may be worrying about nothing ;-)Sometimes the other person feels the same, so perhaps she feels the same as you. It took you quite some effort to get her out in the first place, and since then, the more you got to know her, the more it fizzled.The fact you don't know how it's going means she isn't doing anything to let you think she is crazy about you.I would let it die a slow death. Meaning, don't call or text, and if you do hear from her, then go with the "you're lovely, etc etc etc however I don't think we have as much in common; or that things will work out" etc.She will get the picture, and you can move on.Definitely do not keep seeing her and not let her know, otherwise that would be playing with her heartstrings eventually.Well done for wanting to do something about it, before it goes any further.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (10 September 2013):
 Yes, CMMP's recommendation is top notch. She might - or perhaps might not - be too disappointed if she thinks its not turning out as she would have liked......
Good luck!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 September 2013):
I've just always been honest. And it's better sooner than later.
And I don't mean honest like "you're too boring", but like "I don't feel like we have enough in common."
Give her a compliment or two to soften the blow. "I think you're really attractive and I like hanging out with you, but I just don't feel like...."
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