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writes:I'm 20, have been with my boyfriend (25) for 2 years.He is very loyal, affectionate, loving and absolutely adores me.For the past 6 months he just irrates me constantly. He's not very intelligent, lives with his parents, works in a factory (no ambition/money) and can be quite persistent/pushy when it comes to sex.I am moving away next week, for work and will not be returning home for atleast 6 months. He is desperate to stay with me, and cries/begs when I mention taking a break during this time. I'm quite a dependant person, so being in a new city without friends OR my boyfriend will be very difficult for me.I still love him, I just don't know what to do.To be honest, I'm a little worried that I won't find anyone else, and that I'll regret losing him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): He has irritated you for 25% of your relationship. It is time to break up with him and move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): if your not felling they love u than break up with them
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (2 June 2013):
He doesn't sound like a catch to me. "Absolutely adoring" you doesn't mean he's a good boyfriend since that comes from being codependent.
You also shouldn't not break up with someone because you're worried about finding someone new. Unless you've never had a bit of luck finding anyone and there's something wrong with you, you'll be fine.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 June 2013):
 A break is a step towards permanent break up so there is no going back. You know each other long enough to discuss marriage. If you decide to get married in the future, 6 months is nothing. The way you talk about him it implies you will make much more money than him and will have your own place. I won't say working in a factory is no money if he's working full time. But if a luxury lifestyle and high class socializing are what you look for, then he's not the guy for you. If you just want a simple life with minimal expenditures, having one kid maximum, and he's helpful around the house, I don't see a reason to dump him. For a 25 year old guy being horny is normal. If you are more attracted to him maybe you will want more sex. Sexual compatibility is very important. You don't sound like you like having sex with him. That would be a problem long term. Being so young I am afraid the "I want to see what else is there" will be more tempting than settling with "good enough boyfriend." Your life is not stable. You don't know where you live in a few years and not in a rush to get married. A temporary break is just to soften that sudden break up for good. Don't stay in the relationship just because you get lonely for the six months' period. It's either long term or nothing otherwise it's stringing him along.
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reader, Queen_mermaid  +, writes (2 June 2013):
Hello,
It seems like you don't want to let go of this relationship. I think communication is a wise step. You should talk to him about his bad habits and changing his job. Tell him, its not going to work the way he is behaving and try to pacify him to change. I think moving away along with you will be a good step :) as such he'll get the chance of changing his job without you telling him.
Yours,
Queen Mermaid
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