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writes:Hi i think i'm in love with my best friend, we are really really close, my question is really how do you know when your in love with someone, what are the signs etc. I know i'm only 16 but when u've been friends with the lad virtually all your life i'm sure its possible to be love i know alot of people say it can't be because we 16 is to young but i know quite afew people that have been together since college etc and are in the best realationships ever!. Neither of us are the type to just want sex out of a relationship infact we are virtually the same in most ways probably because we spend so much time together. Some of our friends have told me that he feels the same way as me and is affraid to tell me which i do think is true because we've become alot closer these past few years and the way he is around me just makes me never wanna let go.We are such good friends and i'm sure i'm in love i just want to be sure.
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reader, SuMMerStunner  +, writes (28 July 2009):
i am 16, i am in love.. with a 16 year old!! it is not about age, it is about who you are with, and what the connection is between you's.. my relationship with my bf is strong, from the first day i met him.. and i feel as if it is going to be strong for a very long time..dont have your head confussing you, for you will only make the matter worse..in your friendship, and as you say, you lovee the person, is it really worth you, having to sacrifice what you have together, and what your relationship is as being "friends", really worth making a mistake, not nessarcerially, a bad mistake, but not a right onenoone can tell you what is right or what is wrong, do what your heart tells you to do, go with your strengs and believe in yourself, and what you think you can really do.i hope this helps you a litte. D
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reader, Truelovewaits +, writes (21 December 2008):
Hello, i'm the same age as you, and i am going through the same thing as you, i don't know whether i'm inlove
but maybe this piece of advice might help
sorry if it doesn't
at this age, we can never figure out whether we're inlove or not, we can only assume, from the feelings we feel, but you know if your bestfriend likes you as well, have a go with him, and if it works out im happy for you
if it doesn't then stay bestfriends , you'll find your right man one day, leave it all up to fate.
you knw when your inlove when you see god in the person your having feelings for, someone who you never want to leave, you can see him and you growing old together, when your with them, you dont need anything else but them, he makes you laugh, you have this nice connection, your bestfriends as well as lovers, you care deeply for each other more than yourselves, nobody else but them matters, everything you reminds you of them, you dont get jelous when they talk to other people because you know you trust them, he loves you for you and you love him for him
Hope this helps
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): your heart will tell you your in love! you love spending time with him. you will do anything for him.think about him all the time.heart leaps whe you think about him.
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reader, Takunda  +, writes (22 October 2007):
I think age does not count as long as you can handle the pressure .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Sex iz great datz all i have to say i love it soo much i want it all the time now knowone noes how much i want it wen my boyfriends not here i have to finger myself i dont care i jus needed them type ov things
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 March 2007):
 To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just a crush or infatuation.
Real love on the other hand is very different. If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Eve
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reader, a shoulder to cry on +, writes (27 March 2007):
you can fall in love at any age. i fell in love at 15 and and have just got engaged to that same man, know people who been together since they wer 13 and are now celebrating there 12th wedding aniversary so don't believe it cant happen but be aware it is VERY rare! you need to be careful that your not mistaking your feelings for something more than they are. people often feel they are 'in love' when they get close to someone, its possible you just love him as a friend. Dont let hormones get in the way of a brilliant friendship. You'l know when you passionatly kiss for the first time, it will either feel right or like your kissing your best mate. Just dont take it personally if he doesnt feel the same, you could be giving your self a whole lot more problems so tread carefully so you dont ruin your friendship. most importantly, be honest about how you feel and be prepared for the worst.
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