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writes:Hay guys, advise please.I found out 2 months ago that I was pregnant (5 months to date) and I'm not entirely sure if I want to be a mum. Don't get me wrong I don't want to get rid of the baby it's just that I'm not sure if I want to be a mum - have I mentioned that im 21? The pregnancy wasn't planned (I changed contraceptive pills and was told to wait 7 days when in fact it's supposed to be 1 month!) I do love my partner - we have a four year history and I know he wants to be with me and the baby, however our relationship has been somewhat strained recently and I'm just so confused about what to do. How do you know when a relationship is over???! How do I know if I'm able to love this child considering how I'm feeling?!I really wish this was a conversation that I could have with my partner but it's difficult considering how things are between us - we can't go a couple of days without arguing and it always comes back onto me - like I'm solely to blame, which is so unfair, I know I'm not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but neither is he but that doesn't seem to be taken into consideration!I know this is a little long winded but basically I was just wondering if anyone could give me feedback or has been in a similar situation?Please feel free to ask for more info if you need it.Thank you for reading and please give feedback - any and all is appreciated!xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi gina thanks for the advise - i just don't know what to do we always seem to argue about different things and i just cant cope with it anymore. Im really scared about my feelings towards this baby, what sort of person says they dont want their own baby, i cant help but feel like a really horrible person.
At the moment me and my partner are arguing over everything, his friends, work, not spending time with each other and all the arguments seem to be as a result of me. I know he cares but im just so unhappy and i know he is to, all i really want is to go back to the way things were when we first started dating. And the worst part is, is that i don't know what i want from my relationship - how am i suppossed to fix things when i don't know what the issue is in the first place.
Sorry for rambling ive just had another arguement with him and im feeling really emotional - he said the ball is now in my court and that i need to decide whether or not i want to be with him and honestly i simply dont know what i want.
thanks for listening
kirsty xxx
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 I think your situation is temporary. He will be back. You being pregnant and worrying about these things are but manifestations of hormones exploding in you in different directions.
I bet he will be back when the baby is due.
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