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writes:please help,i have been with my current boyfriend for the last year and a half...i don't know if i should break up with him or not. i love him more than anything...but he doesn't respect me...he's hours late to everything...doesn't ever answer his phone and every once in a great while he will drink to much when hes out with his friends and will stay at his friends house because hes to drunk to drive home. but he doesn't call he will he next day. (we live together)... it just feels like he doesn't care about how his actions affect others...also we don't really have sex anymore because he works so much he's always tired...i just don't know what to do anymore please help
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reader, helen  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hey love,
Im sorry to say babe it sounds like you already know the answer to your question. What can be done? You can try to talk to him about it, ask him to change his ways BUT do you really think that he'll change? If he will, if he can, if he's committed- then the time is now and he's going to have to prove that. Its making you unhappy putting up with his behaviour. Im assuming here, but, you dont sound like you'd do it to him- and if that is really true then you dont deserve this.
Put your cards down...say what you want, deserve and expect from him...if he doesnt deliver...and Im skeptical.... then stick to your guns and walk away......THE SOONER THE BETTER.
Life is too short to be treated in a bad way by the closest to you....why waste time with inconsiderate Bobby or stoopid Steve when every minute you're being treated badly by him you could actually be treated in beautiful ways by Brad the sexy sky diver?
Put some effort in to something you feel is worthwhile - maybe thats not necessarily a guy right now either.
Anything you choose though- You go girl! Don't be a doormat for such an inconsiderate pair of shoes.
Lots of Love and Luck,
Oh and Happy Independence Day!
Helen
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reader, sexi  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 Hi, sorry ot hear about your problem. The first thing that you should do is speak to him about what you are feeling. That is the onl way he would know that his actions are affecting you.If you continue to keep quiet about what he is doing he would think you acceot his behavior and that you are okay with what is happening. You can also start by setting some guideline for your'lls relationship. The fact that he can fo out with his friends shoe that he is making an excuse that he is tried. Try and do new things in your relationship. After you speak to him you can establish whether he wants to continue in the relationship and work together. Ask him if hs needs space and try to find out what is the reason for his change in behavior.Communication is the key to your answers which you require.
Good luck & i hope that you can get through to him.
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