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writes:He said he never lies... I'm struggling to keep count of all the lies he's told. He said he's been cheated on before and would never cheat... he asked other girls out while we were together and straight after we break up. He told me he's not like those guys who use girls for sex, and said he'll always love me... He faked it and he's a coward for not coming clean about the truth about asking out another girl while we were together. When she found out about us he made up the excuse "it's not a proper relationship; we're taking it slow." And we had agreed to take it slow.. So I broke up with him but then he tried to ask if I wanted to be friends with benefits! Seriously! I'm not like that! Thank god I still have my virginity and at age 17, I'm not giving that away for quite awhile! Unfortunately I did waste my first kiss on him. He lied about plans to commit suicide to make me feel really guilty (and worried)...that's how low he is. He was clearly okay since he put up a fb status the next morning as lyrics about sex. My best guy friend told me that since I broke up with him, he's been asking out a lot of his friends that are girls. He once told me that a girl accused him of cheating when trying to talk dirty to her online, but he said his account was hacked so it wasn't him. Yeah. I bet that was a lie too.How can a guy be so evil? I was wondering if his mother leaving his father years ago turned him bad... Wouldn't that make you want to be good? I haven't had the best childhood either, yet I know that for as long as I live I will never be unfaithful or lie to my partner. Don't know how am I going to trust other guys in the future. I know there are some good guys out there but I'm afraid this experience will scar me! He told me at the start that "the only girl he ever loved" cheated on him after 2 months. He said he "was dumb enough to take her back" and that's why he wouldn't take me back after he told me I hurt him after getting angry at him. (Though this was before I realized the rumour was true and that he's a bad guy who lies all the time and can't have been hurt by me if he never cared. I've cut off all contact now.)I know he's not worth it.. but I still miss him and how he was so sweet to me all the time. Even though it was all fake on his part...that hurts. How do get through being cheated on and lied to, knowing the person you were with never even cared about you? Or if anyone reading this has been cheated or done wrong, how did you get through it? Any advice from anyone please?
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reader, Little Miss Love  +, writes (29 September 2011):
 try and imagine that if someone you hardly had treated you how this guy has how you would feel about them, i found it helped to come to realisation that you dont deserve anything like this! then hopefully you can come above it all :)
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reader, Eyespy17  +, writes (29 September 2011):
Consider this one of life's lessons and be grateful it happened to you now so you don't have it happen later in life (say if you had married or had a baby with this kind of a guy). Now you know the warning signs and you can steer clear of a schmuck like him. And don't beat yourself up about this. Guys like him are very convincing but when they have too many wild excuses "account got hacked" etc , you know they are habitual liars. Have NO contact with him. He will get his. Bad people like him will attract bad people and he will have a life of drama or be alone. Either way you won't care in 3 or 4 months. Or hopefully sooner. Someone better will come along as long as you are open to it. And free of your thoughts being on this loser. He's not thinking of you. He doesn't deserve another minute of your thoughts. Xoxoxo
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 September 2011):
 You live and you learn. Figure out what it was that attracted you in the first place and then stay far far away from guys like that in the future.
And next time take the time to get to know the guy. Take it slow :)
There are plenty of douche bags out there, but also plenty of decent guys. You might just have to kiss a few toads to find one.
And rememeber this, HE will always be an idiot. He will NOT learn from this. You will.
Take it as a lapse in good judgement. A mistake. We all make them. So stop beating yourself up.
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