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writes:I'm a teenager, and I have never had a girlfriend. I have had a couple of friends in school, but I never really got down to that. How can I get a girlfriend? What can lead to eventually getting in a relationship with someone? And how can I be ready for one?
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (17 May 2011):
 Relationships take a little time to develop. Sadly, many people rush into things and make rash decisions in the moment.
You did not mention how much you get out there and socialize with people but the more you get out there the more likely you will catch someone's eye and someone will catch yours. IF you go to a group activity right there you have a common interest which could draw you and a lady together.
Once you meet someone that is attractive to you. Over time the more you will get to know them. Eventually things just fall into place and you are in a relationship.
Being ready for a relationship means you are willing to set boundaries with that person and enforce them.
One relationship killer is when two people who have just started out togther rearrange their entire lives and spend too much time together. The reltionship can burn out quickly if you do not invest time in your friends and family apart from your girlfriend. Time apart is just as important as time together.
I chime in on many posts on this site and a lot of the problems I see is people not setting boundaries on their time, feelings, finances and everything else. Lots of people on here have this "I'm an open book" attitude where they give away all of their information and give away their computer passwords because they think to do otherwise means they are holding secrets. That is nonsense! Or they allow their feelings to overrule their judgement and spend all their time with one person.
Boundaries is a very big issue and I am sure you don't want me to write a book about it here. When you do find a lady and get her on your arm, make sure you ask yourself if you feel comfortable sharing (X) with this person at this time.
If you have any questions be sure to post them. There are lots of good people on here that are willing to share their experiences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): hi there, alot of people will fall down at finding a relationship because the look for having a relationship instead you need meet a girl and like her and then you can think about having a relationship, and you cant be ready for it, your first girlfriend will make you feel so happy inside that you will instinctivly know how to be a good boyfriend... just hang in there and keep girls as mates until you find someone you have that conection with :) xx
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