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writes: It is a bit complicated question.So I'm in my late 40 esand I used to be a modell.I don't want to go on about myself, but I'm attractive ,and sort of smart .Now my husband ,stoped showing any desire a few years ago, and I feel I'm wasting my beauty on him. But I don't want to leave him.I do believe in marraiage,and I do love him.I tried to work this out with him, but no good results.He does not know why is this, and never said he does not want me. But he never showing any affection.So what can I do ? I don't want to sound like I'm full of myself, but I just know my gifts, and faults. MY fault is that I can't find a way ,to celebrate my own beauty, if nobody cares, but the problem is I can't give this marriage up, I would rather find ways to live without sexual desire, an attention. Is there any way to do that, or is it against nature's law? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): There are occasions when 'aunts' will read between the lines and pick up on a genuine issue that the original poster didn't mention. This isn't one of those times, Uncle Frank. The tactlessness of that reply overshadows the useful bit of advice about marriage counselling.
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reader, uncle Frank  +, writes (18 July 2009):
 Your beauty is only skin deep and your question confirms it.
You husband no longer wants you sexually and you say that your are smart but you don't see the reasons why.
Well: maybe you have become fat.
May be you had children and your body, including down there, have changed shape and size and he no longer enjoys you.
How about finding out/ Go to a marriage counsellor together and see what transpire and the take the steps necessary to improve the situation.
Maybe he would like you to initiate sex and you wait for him till he gets tired of being the one always.
Talk with him, not about him. And stop talking about yourself: it is the worst thing a woman can do.
Sorry to be so frank!
uncle Frank
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