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writes:My ex and I have had contact again for one month mostly on the phone. We saw each other twice and were intimate. the last time 3 days ago and have not heard from him since then My question is this. I know he goes out w/ friends and is dating. But I want to know if he is exclusive. I would think not since I was at his home and no signs of a g/f. My dilemma should I call him and ask him this question. He told me he never goes to the movies and today I want to go. Should I call him to go. I definitely would call him even as friends but if someone else is there I don't want to be made a fool of. A female did call him in the am which I heard on the answering machine and said she was back in town. I don't know who it was and didn't ask him. Should I just walk away and get on with my life. This is one man that does not make sense to me, especially since I swear he loves me. When we were together he never cheated Should I call and ask him about her? Or should i call just to got to the movies? Or just forget it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (19 July 2009):
Yes -- it was a most certainly a booty call. And the next one will be a booty call, too, unless you put a stop to it. You turned what could have been a good post-divorce relationship, from someone (your ex) who cares about you as a person, and your family, into a someone who looks upon you as a booty call, a back up to get his rocks off when it's been a few days/weeks. Men are weak; men are pigs. If you had waited, and developed a new relationship, after going to the movies with him a few months, and gave a new romance a chance, it might have happened. Now it won't. He will see you as an easy lay. Now if you don't give him the pointed toes treatment, he'll be confused and frustrated and, my guess, he won't wait it out for a new relationship because you've already given him the goods, nothing to work for. After having sex with you a couple of times, and you have all these questions, that shows that sleeping with him was a bad idea. Agree? Sorry sweetie. You sound like a nice lady, and my sage advice is not to put your energy into this past relationship, wish him well, and move on with your life to find happiness somewhere else. This current path will lead to disappointment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I do feel like I was a booty call two days ago, although it was odd since it was a meeting at his with all his neighbors, many whom I know. Many thought we were still together. the first time however, I really thought he wanted me back. he found out my father was ill and came to the hospital, even talked to my mother who he knows was mad at him for hurting me. He took me to dinner and it was my choice for him to come up that night and it just happened, he called me every few days after that to see how I was and how my mother was. So do you still think it was just a booty call?
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (18 July 2009):
You're his booty call. Plain 'n simple. Want to be used? He's your guy. Kick him to the curb, is my sage advice, and don't let him sleep with you again. You will not move on with your life, and you will not be happy, if you allow this (dysfunctional) relationship to continue. You are denying yourself the opportunity to meet someone who will love and respect you, not just get his rocks off with you and leave. It's up to you. If he wanted to start anew with you, you would really unquestionaly know it by now. That doesn't at all appear to be the case. Move on.
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