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writes:How can one distiguish love from lust. Does a guy who wants sex every time you meet lustful about you and not actually love you, I really want to know coz I am not sure if my boyfriend loves me. THANX 4 your help. :))) Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 I agree with Eve. If your bf is just in lust they will tend to focus on the physical side of the relationship and not so much on spending time with you outside the bedroom or indeed a life outside of their.
Also I would add look for physical signs. Do they touch you often in a non-sexual but affectionate way (on the arm or hug you?).
Having said that this is not always the case and lust can be the first stage of love (infatuation and obbsession). What is more the early stage of a relationship is often very physical so be careful before judging your partner too quickly.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 March 2007):
 LUST - a passionate or strong sexual desire for something.
LOVE - a very strong feeling of affection for someone.
If you love someone then you will be there for them no matter what, of course they'll want to show you how strongly they feel about you by making love to you but they will put you first, they'll never belittle you in front of others, they'll be there when times are good and stick together when times are bad, it's about you and everything you stand for. Lust on the other hand IS mostly about sex. They crave you sexually, talk about sex and what they like about you sexually all the time. They aren't really interested in you and how you tick, they just want to "get down to it." Does this make sense?
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reader, Midge +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Love is something that is between two people. Whereas someone in lust, would pretty much take what he can get from whomever he can get it. If he's in lust, then he will take what he can get from you, not because he "loves" you, but because he is "lustful".It can sometimes be difficult to determine if they are in love or in lust because someone in lust will tell you whatever you want to hear from them, just so that they can get what they want from you.If you are unsure, you should try and go cold turkey, and see what his reaction is. If he gets very upset and tells you that you do not love him, then the chances are it lust. If he loved you, he would accept that you didnt want to have sex and just hug you.
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